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There’s More To Life Than Sex

We are all sexual beings.

It’s part of our design.

Sexuality plays a role in most everything we encounter. And our society has become more and more sexualized. But in marriage, there’s more to life than sex.

Did I really just say that out loud? I guess I did.

A major component of a fulfilling marriage is the connection you sustain with your spouse. However, many times this bid for connection can be met with skepticism. As if there is an ulterior motive with your wanting to touch your spouse.

There may be times when your spouse sees right through your motives. It may also be that your “moves” need a little work.

I believe that most of the communication within marriage is covert. Speaking up and saying what you really think or want often involves too much risk. So we figure out how to get what we want through covert action. Now to be fair, both men and women are complicit in this exchange.

In order to break this pattern, the truth must come out.

This could be as simple as speaking up when you are interested in going out with your friends for the evening, or when you want to buy the newest techno gadget, or even when you want to have sex.

An interesting phenomenon occurs in most people when the topic of sex comes up. Everyone claims they are interested in the act, many claim to really enjoy it, but most people have a hard time talking about it with their spouse.

Most men will report that in their marriage, sex is a way feel closer. While most women will state they want to feel closer in order to be more interested in sex.

With these differing views of the same thing, no wonder gridlock occurs in marriage.

An interesting thought about the statements above: both men and women report that they are interested in greater connection with their spouse.

But they go about it differently.

So what exactly is the benefit of a closer connection in marriage you ask?

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