OK, last night, after reading this post, I cleaned up my bedroom. You are correct, that room needs to be inviting and not chaos. I really want to clean it out and make it sort of a hide away.

Other things I have found spark connectedness is playing racquetball a couple of times a week. Sometimes it’s just fun to “play”. Racquetball is a great way to be together, exercise, and play.

Another sparky thing is finding unusual place to be intimate. When the kids are gone, find a different room to be together in is a fun thing to do. I get an adventurous thrill from being outside under the stars to have an encounter. My back yard, late at night, was fun and so was being together in a tent.

Blocking out time together is a great thing to do. That alone helped my relationship to go down a better path. We have done all kinds of things with that time. Everything from walking to Starbucks, to playing a board game, to roasting hotdogs outside. The point is to just be together without distractions. It’s a good thing.