Comments on: 8 Principles for a Zen Marriage http://www.simplemarriage.net/8-principles-for-a-zen-marriage.html Keep it simple. Make it better. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 21:01:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jackie http://www.simplemarriage.net/8-principles-for-a-zen-marriage.html#comment-13083 Jackie Fri, 08 Apr 2011 14:14:32 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=84#comment-13083 My husband and I based a marriage retreat on these 8 principles. We needed to reconnect and get back on track after 11 years of marriage. Thanks. My husband and I based a marriage retreat on these 8 principles. We needed to reconnect and get back on track after 11 years of marriage. Thanks.

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]]> By: Suman Bohra http://www.simplemarriage.net/8-principles-for-a-zen-marriage.html#comment-1269 Suman Bohra Fri, 08 Aug 2008 09:28:59 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=84#comment-1269 Nice article Nice article

]]> By: FetishSelf http://www.simplemarriage.net/8-principles-for-a-zen-marriage.html#comment-1224 FetishSelf Sat, 02 Aug 2008 18:18:16 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=84#comment-1224 Where is passion? Fun? Practice, Practice, Practice.. What for? To be happy? Have you lived your life this way and got results you want to share? Are these your own thoughts? I doubt! All those qualities you describe don't manifest just by practicing (not within one lifetime), one has to realize it through living the passionate, turbulent, fearless life. You know what is funny? I see people talking about all these stuff: positive attitude, simplicity, etc. and go back to living the way the always have :-) Perhaps, in a long run, like few generations, yes. Practicing, practicing, and practicing. It will somehow make a way in a regular living. That is called translation (Ken Wilber). I don't have against this practices anything (I support it with two hands), just let people know that it might take a lifetime and still not be acquired. Where is passion? Fun? Practice, Practice, Practice..
What for? To be happy? Have you lived your life this way and got results you want to share? Are these your own thoughts? I doubt!
All those qualities you describe don’t manifest just by practicing (not within one lifetime), one has to realize it through living the passionate, turbulent, fearless life.

You know what is funny? I see people talking about all these stuff: positive attitude, simplicity, etc. and go back to living the way the always have :-)

Perhaps, in a long run, like few generations, yes. Practicing, practicing, and practicing. It will somehow make a way in a regular living. That is called translation (Ken Wilber).

I don’t have against this practices anything (I support it with two hands), just let people know that it might take a lifetime and still not be acquired.

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/8-principles-for-a-zen-marriage.html#comment-242 Corey Sat, 26 Apr 2008 15:14:17 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=84#comment-242 @ Subdivisionman- Great question. There are those out there that prefer the faster paced, chaotic type of life. When you are married to one, the key would be for each of you to understand where the other is coming from. It is likely that in time, you each would become comfortable with the other's preferred pace, although you wouldn't necessarily totally adapt to their way. Just because you are different, doesn't mean you can't stay close and even learn a bit from each other. Expecting her to come around to your way is illogical, much like her expecting you to come to her way. Talk it through with her and seek your own pace as she seeks hers. What a great opportunity to grow as people and as a couple. When the covert dominates, often both people get defensive. Make this issue overt and you both can take charge of the issue. @ Subdivisionman- Great question. There are those out there that prefer the faster paced, chaotic type of life. When you are married to one, the key would be for each of you to understand where the other is coming from. It is likely that in time, you each would become comfortable with the other’s preferred pace, although you wouldn’t necessarily totally adapt to their way.

Just because you are different, doesn’t mean you can’t stay close and even learn a bit from each other. Expecting her to come around to your way is illogical, much like her expecting you to come to her way. Talk it through with her and seek your own pace as she seeks hers. What a great opportunity to grow as people and as a couple.

When the covert dominates, often both people get defensive. Make this issue overt and you both can take charge of the issue.

]]> By: subdivisionman http://www.simplemarriage.net/8-principles-for-a-zen-marriage.html#comment-241 subdivisionman Sat, 26 Apr 2008 12:00:31 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=84#comment-241 Corey, I enjoyed your post. I have personally taken action for some of the items on the list. Most helpful for me, and my children are about focusing on how we want things to end for a given day, activity, experience, etc.. In other words, defining our goal and planning reasonable actions to accomplish them with family based understanding and support. Sorry to include it here, but the wife does not agree with the approach and prefers much to fly by the seat and put out fires as they arise... This is another matter, but I pose the question to you and other readers: How do those who prefer the simple and purposeful negotiate the hair-on-fire chaos loving types in a marriage? Seriously, this is still beyond my skillset. Corey, I enjoyed your post. I have personally taken action for some of the items on the list. Most helpful for me, and my children are about focusing on how we want things to end for a given day, activity, experience, etc.. In other words, defining our goal and planning reasonable actions to accomplish them with family based understanding and support. Sorry to include it here, but the wife does not agree with the approach and prefers much to fly by the seat and put out fires as they arise… This is another matter, but I pose the question to you and other readers: How do those who prefer the simple and purposeful negotiate the hair-on-fire chaos loving types in a marriage? Seriously, this is still beyond my skillset.

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