Comments on: A Great Marriage By Subtraction? http://www.simplemarriage.net/a-great-marriage-by-subtraction.html Keep it simple. Make it better. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 21:01:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Idaho Lass http://www.simplemarriage.net/a-great-marriage-by-subtraction.html#comment-3686 Idaho Lass Sat, 13 Jun 2009 22:07:44 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=1968#comment-3686 We celebrate our 15 year anniversary next week. A year ago I would have said we had a thriving marriage. I desperately love my husband, but feel disconnected from him. I understand life is busy, and finances, though not terrible, are an issue. When I try to broach the subject of romance and spending time together, my husband gets defensive and angry with me and we end up barely speaking for days until I "let it go". I'm finding the more I "let it go", the more distant I feel. At this point, I don't really care if we celebrate our anniversary next week because I feel it's simply a fulfillment of an obligation from his perspective. I never knew you could love someone so much and at the same time feel so far apart. We celebrate our 15 year anniversary next week. A year ago I would have said we had a thriving marriage. I desperately love my husband, but feel disconnected from him. I understand life is busy, and finances, though not terrible, are an issue. When I try to broach the subject of romance and spending time together, my husband gets defensive and angry with me and we end up barely speaking for days until I “let it go”. I’m finding the more I “let it go”, the more distant I feel. At this point, I don’t really care if we celebrate our anniversary next week because I feel it’s simply a fulfillment of an obligation from his perspective. I never knew you could love someone so much and at the same time feel so far apart.

]]> By: Burning Bushes http://www.simplemarriage.net/a-great-marriage-by-subtraction.html#comment-3576 Burning Bushes Wed, 03 Jun 2009 09:54:36 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=1968#comment-3576 Congratulations. We're just hitting our 4th anniversary this year. With two kids already, it's clear to us that we're going to have to continually prioritize this relationship and work hard at it. It's just like staying healthy physically-no pain, no gain. Congratulations. We’re just hitting our 4th anniversary this year. With two kids already, it’s clear to us that we’re going to have to continually prioritize this relationship and work hard at it. It’s just like staying healthy physically-no pain, no gain.

]]> By: Laurie http://www.simplemarriage.net/a-great-marriage-by-subtraction.html#comment-3573 Laurie Mon, 01 Jun 2009 16:37:41 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=1968#comment-3573 It's a risk....being honest with the kind of life you want and sharing that with your spouse. But I'm a risk taker and will to put in the work to live more fully alive hoping he chooses to make changes in himself that will allow him to join me. Either way, I'm being true to myself and after all that is who I really have to live with right? It’s a risk….being honest with the kind of life you want and sharing that with your spouse. But I’m a risk taker and will to put in the work to live more fully alive hoping he chooses to make changes in himself that will allow him to join me. Either way, I’m being true to myself and after all that is who I really have to live with right?

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/a-great-marriage-by-subtraction.html#comment-3572 Corey Mon, 01 Jun 2009 15:54:05 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=1968#comment-3572 Okay Nelia- some time I'll write something that you completely agree with :) Thanks for the comment. I'd love to hear your rebuttal. Okay Nelia- some time I’ll write something that you completely agree with :) Thanks for the comment. I’d love to hear your rebuttal.

]]> By: Nelia http://www.simplemarriage.net/a-great-marriage-by-subtraction.html#comment-3571 Nelia Mon, 01 Jun 2009 15:35:32 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=1968#comment-3571 For once, I am in full agreement. OK. Almost full agreement (I'm completely on board with the "thriving marriage =action" equation). A year ago, I would have agreed with the "no control over your spouse's choice." But today? I might have a rebuttal or two. Nevertheless, congratulations on 16 years! That's proof in the pudding, no debate required. For once, I am in full agreement. OK. Almost full agreement (I’m completely on board with the “thriving marriage =action” equation).

A year ago, I would have agreed with the “no control over your spouse’s choice.” But today? I might have a rebuttal or two.

Nevertheless, congratulations on 16 years! That’s proof in the pudding, no debate required.

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