A couple of days ago I posted the story about Pam and I’s journey in marriage. I’m humbled by all the responses and the willingness of others to share similar stories.
There are two reasons why I think our story was worth sharing. One is to let others in the midst of struggle and crisis know that it is survivable. You can come out the other end better and more alive. And two, is to hopefully inspire others to be willing to stick it out through the tough times.
No marriage is immune to struggle – in fact, no life is either. I’m not an advocate of making your marriage work at all costs, if you are married to an abusive spouse or a habitual cheater then you are really putting yourself at risk by staying. But I do believe marriage is a big commitment and deserves a great deal of respect and effort.
My hope is that when the rough times come in your marriage, as I’m sure they will again to some degree in mine, you will step up, grow up, and work through it together.
A marriage fully alive doesn’t happen by chance – it’s designed by both of you.
May God bless your marriage and relationships. ~Corey
The post was incredible Corey. We all have struggles in our marriages and in life (or will have) and it is nice to know that if we work hard, we can overcome them and move forward to a fuller life and relationship. How was Pam with all of this? Was regaining her trust a difficult thing? How does a spouse regain the trust after a breach?
You touched many hearts Corey. Keep up fighting for marriage.
As somebody who has also married early, gone through a difficult time, and come back together with my husband after a separation and the intent to divorce, I too appreciated your honesty. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. Thanks for sharing!
Thanks again for sharing your story. The truth is, we’re all human. We all make mistakes. That doesn’t have to mean the end of something great. And there’s certainly something to be said for honesty. While not always easy, being honest with both ourselves and our spouse is what can lead to that true greatness of each other being experienced. I appreciate your honesty in sharing a part of the journey you’ve been on…
I’ll say it again, keep up the much needed work. LOVE these:
“Something’s only worth fighting for after you’ve fought for it.”
and
“A marriage fully alive doesn’t happen by chance – it’s designed by both of you.”
God bless
Hi Corey, I’ve been reading your articles and ebook for a few weeks, and they’ve been such a blessing and encouragement. My husband and I just got married this summer and it’s scary how quickly life becomes routine and starts pulling you in different directions. I can see now how easy it is to get stuck in a rut and I’m like wow, we just started… I can see how people wake up 2, 5, 10 years later feeling hurt, disappointed, bored, a little jipped that this wasn’t the life they signed up for. #297 in ‘Life’s Little Instruction Book’ (great little book btw)) is ‘A successful marriage depends on two things: 1)finding the right person and 2) being the right person’. Once you’re married there’s not a lot you can do about number 1
, but working on number 2, that’s a lifelong process. Reading your and other’s posts and experiences gives me hope and encouragement to keep ‘being the right person’.