With the great discussion taking place from yesterday’s inaugural podcast on sexual desire differences, and last week’s ask the readers being on sex and intimacy – perhaps it’s time to get down to specifics and deal with only one word this time.
Let’s start with a word that has a myriad of meanings … SEX.
Sex is everywhere.
It’s used to sell, entertain, and exploit. Situation comedies, soap operas, movies, commercials, music videos, video games, and websites often present a distorted view of sexuality that does more harm than good.
It’s all around us.
It’s part of our life.
It’s part of marriage.
But what does it mean to you?
So I ask you to complete this sentence:
Sex is …
I can’t wait to see where this conversation goes.
Photo courtesy @sahxic < twitter
Love-making is paramount to the fusion that helps melt us into each other and validate the bond that exists.
In my first marriage, I found that once the bond was faltering, it was more difficult for the emotional element to engage. If sex happened, it became a mere action … having sex, verses making love … I think there is a difference.
Thankfully that is not the case for me anymore! In my current marriage, it is an extension of our expression of love for each other. The heat causes a fusion that strengthens our bond.
Sex is glorious. Choirs upon choirs singing praises to the heavens, glorious.
Beyond that, it is, in my opinion, the one and only single thing that my husband and I can do together than we can’t do with someone else. This opinion raises eyebrows and you’re welcome to raise yours. I could parent and budget and share a sacred bond with my dearest friend, but sex is what sets Gary apart from Jessica.
It is joy and pleasure and connection and intimacy, reassurance, security, vulnerability and genuine.
Sex isn’t always praises to the heavens glorious. I was raped as a child and sexually abused by two family members for years. Needless to say, when I finally left home, I felt I was only good for sex, but it wasn’t glorious or good. There were always men willing to take advantage of my horrible self-esteem and then disappear.
Now that I’ve been married nearly 20 years to a wonderful man, I’m learning that sex can be glorious and beautiful and amazing. IMHO, our society is too quick to label any sexual activity as great and anyone who disagrees is a prude. But sex as God designed it is a marvelous thing.
Sex is…AWESOME.
(And I swear on all that is holy that my husband and I BOTH finished the sentence the same way!)
Sex is an art that gets better with age.
Sex is . . . a lot more complicated than it sounds.
I am amazed to find how much there is to learn about sex, even four years after getting married. It’s amazing how sex went from being a very frustrating, unfulfilling, confusing act that was only done to please my husband to something we both love. It takes practice, careful thought, conversation and lots of patience, but can become glorious, meaningful, and even fun.
Sex is… hard work, if you want it to be good for both of you, and for the marriage. But it’s the most fun hard work in the world!
Sex is…
HOT, Teamwork, Quick, Long, Bonding, Release, Pleasure
Sex is a gift. It can be ripped apart, squandered, stored away in a closet, taken for granted or remain unopened. AND it can be gleefully unwrapped, joyfully explored and passionately delved into.
Sex is… fun! Donald and I often end up in giggles when we are experimenting, learning more about each other and about how to please each other is such an amazing reward. So worthwhile, even if it means less sleep.