Ask The Readers: What Are Your Marriage Essentials?
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There are many reasons to get married. There are also many blessings and struggles associated with marriage.
With the countless reasons people get married, what if you were able to limit the focus of your marriage to the essentials? What if you could focus on the two or three things most important to your marriage.
The essentials for each couple are different, but when you get right down to it, there are probably a few primary things you look for in your marriage relationship.
What are your marriage essentials?
Please share in the comments.
Corey is the editor of Simple Marriage as well as a licensed marriage & family therapist. While he has a Ph.D. in Family Therapy, he only occasionally likes to be called doctor. If you enjoyed this post, please subscribe so you don't miss any future posts.16 Responses to “Ask The Readers: What Are Your Marriage Essentials?”
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intimacy
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Emotional intimacy, the deepest of friendships, safety for my heart to be real and be heard, oneness.
The essentials I want for my marriage, and family, are kindness and respect. We all need to understand that we are each different and unique; we have our own dreams and ambitions. We should help eachother in our respective journeys. Long story short:
Kindness
Respect
+ Complete honesty; my wife and I have no secrets.
+ Respect and admiration. I love my wife deeply, and have ultimate respect for her role as a mom to our two kids.
+ Sharing the highs and lows. My wife and I can laugh together, and cry together, and do so often. We’re convinved as long as we have each other we can tackle anything.
trust, respect, intimacy, integrity, companionship, a spirit of adventure, each of us be able to take care of him/herself (no duck tape he he).
I think it is interesting how no one so far has said love.
Oh and God
Another thing no one has said that I believe is essential, is forgiveness. Now I’ll be quiet.
For me the essentials are:
Honesty (no secrets)
Forgiveness (no bitterness or prolonged hurt)
Friendship
Intimacy
Unwavering commitment to the marriage (i.e. each other)
Unwavering commitment to God
Laurie, I didn’t say love because I believe that love is too vague but my above comments are all encompassed by the term Love.
Great Post by the way!
Ryan.
Growing up – my husband constantly encourages me to be a better person just by being in my life, that’s something I never want to lose.
Love & Respect – understanding that 1) we’re different and 2) that’s a good thing, learning to take joy in that and showing each other the love and respect that they need.
Intimacy – being each other’s best friend (this goes along with understanding the differences) and seeking to know the other intimately
Shared values
Shared goals
The ability to create fun together
Respect
Admiration
Encouragement/Support
Companionship
Respect
Intimacy
That question makes you think!
- Open Communication
- Deep friendship
- Trust / Respect
- Intimacy
- understanding and encouraging each other to be the best they can.
Open communication
Shared goals and values
Fiscal equality (my money = your money)
Respect
Shared passion for Jack Johnson’s music
@the weakonomist- I would concur with the Jack Johnson comment. I just discovered his music within the past month. Love it.
THE FEELING OF BEING ONE HEART
THE VERY BAD TIMES AND MAKING THE DECISION TO MAKE IT WORK
COMPANIONSHIP
FORGIVENESS
HUMOR
Affection…Companionship…Respect…Support…Committment