Comments on: Ask The Readers: What’s The Difference Between Intimacy And Sex? http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html A better marriage by keeping it simple. Sun, 21 Mar 2010 00:26:26 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Debby http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-5912 Debby Fri, 22 Jan 2010 01:48:26 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-5912 Stephanie put it well. To carry it a step further, most women need intimacy to share herself with a man and have sex. To me, intimacy is truly sharing my heart and soul, but not necessarily having to have sex. Sex is an act, intimacy is a feeling, an emotion if you will. Stephanie put it well. To carry it a step further, most women need intimacy to share herself with a man and have sex. To me, intimacy is truly sharing my heart and soul, but not necessarily having to have sex. Sex is an act, intimacy is a feeling, an emotion if you will.

]]> By: jeweller http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-3142 jeweller Tue, 07 Apr 2009 11:44:58 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-3142 Intimacy has much deeper meaning of love and emotions Intimacy has much deeper meaning of love and emotions

]]> By: 11 mistakes that men make during sex | The Simple Marriage Project http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-2026 11 mistakes that men make during sex | The Simple Marriage Project Mon, 15 Dec 2008 19:48:32 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-2026 [...] whole discussion started off with the question, what’s the difference between intimacy and sex? Since your host of the Simple Marriage Project is a guy, I thought I’d take a moment and [...] [...] whole discussion started off with the question, what’s the difference between intimacy and sex? Since your host of the Simple Marriage Project is a guy, I thought I’d take a moment and [...]

]]> By: Michael Dundas http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-2019 Michael Dundas Thu, 11 Dec 2008 01:36:03 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-2019 @Rebecca. Thanks for the clarification and I agree in general women require more emotional intimacy then men. With respect to a man confide in you and having the wife discouraged, I personally feel this highlights and issue with him and his wife and it is something they should deal with -- it is not really your problem -- although if he is confiding in you to that degree, you should be able to open that conversation up with him as to why that is and get him thinking about the problem. -mike. @Rebecca.

Thanks for the clarification and I agree in general women require more emotional intimacy then men.

With respect to a man confide in you and having the wife discouraged, I personally feel this highlights and issue with him and his wife and it is something they should deal with — it is not really your problem — although if he is confiding in you to that degree, you should be able to open that conversation up with him as to why that is and get him thinking about the problem.

-mike.

]]> By: Rebecca http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-2015 Rebecca Wed, 10 Dec 2008 19:11:29 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-2015 "So I completely disagree with Rebecca on the men don’t need / require intimacy and therefore women should be careful of their relationships with men." Obviously I overstated my case. I believe that, in general, women have a higher need for emotional/relational intimacy than men do. I still believe that truly intimate relationships between people of the opposite sex require caution...and may be either impossible or problematic if both parties are not interested in also having a sexual relationship with each other. The last thing I want to do is become best buddies with a man and to have his wife discouraged that he tells me everything only to be all talked out once he gets home to her. “So I completely disagree with Rebecca on the men don’t need / require intimacy and therefore women should be careful of their relationships with men.”

Obviously I overstated my case. I believe that, in general, women have a higher need for emotional/relational intimacy than men do.

I still believe that truly intimate relationships between people of the opposite sex require caution…and may be either impossible or problematic if both parties are not interested in also having a sexual relationship with each other.

The last thing I want to do is become best buddies with a man and to have his wife discouraged that he tells me everything only to be all talked out once he gets home to her.

]]> By: jrandom42 http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-2003 jrandom42 Tue, 09 Dec 2008 18:13:49 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-2003 My grandmother-in-law, a wise, caring, compassionate woman, who the family knew never to cross, may have summed it up best: "Intimacy is chemistry, sex is physics." My grandmother-in-law, a wise, caring, compassionate woman, who the family knew never to cross, may have summed it up best: “Intimacy is chemistry, sex is physics.”

]]> By: Intimacy: A Deeper Discussion | The Simple Marriage Project http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-1991 Intimacy: A Deeper Discussion | The Simple Marriage Project Mon, 08 Dec 2008 15:48:03 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-1991 [...] we’ve been on a journey exploring the topic of intimacy. Starting with a discussion of intimacy vs. sex, which are often interchanged but in fact have very different meanings. Next there was a discussion [...] [...] we’ve been on a journey exploring the topic of intimacy. Starting with a discussion of intimacy vs. sex, which are often interchanged but in fact have very different meanings. Next there was a discussion [...]

]]> By: ManZine http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-1988 ManZine Sun, 07 Dec 2008 16:51:48 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-1988 Sex is simply fun, whereas intimacy is about love and true feelings. Sex is like like a sport and anyone can play. Just because two people are having sex doesn't necessarily mean they have to be intimate towards each other, they'll just be enjoying the experience, as they would watching a film, say. When things start getting intimate, love begins to get involved. Your feelings towards this person go from friendly, to loving. Now, I'm not saying that sex is loveless, but if you treat it with love, it's intimate, if you treat it as sex and nothing more - there you have it, it's simply sex. Nothing beats true intimate love-making sessions, but likewise, a bit of devious meanderings here and there come with their own lil kicks! ;-) Adam, www.manzine.tk Sex is simply fun, whereas intimacy is about love and true feelings.

Sex is like like a sport and anyone can play. Just because two people are having sex doesn’t necessarily mean they have to be intimate towards each other, they’ll just be enjoying the experience, as they would watching a film, say.

When things start getting intimate, love begins to get involved. Your feelings towards this person go from friendly, to loving.

Now, I’m not saying that sex is loveless, but if you treat it with love, it’s intimate, if you treat it as sex and nothing more – there you have it, it’s simply sex.

Nothing beats true intimate love-making sessions, but likewise, a bit of devious meanderings here and there come with their own lil kicks! ;-)

Adam,
http://www.manzine.tk

]]> By: Michael Dundas http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-1985 Michael Dundas Sat, 06 Dec 2008 23:27:38 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-1985 So I completely disagree with Rebecca on the men don't need / require intimacy and therefore women should be careful of their relationships with men. I am a very happily married man. However, most of my friends are women and have been my entire life. It's not that I look for women to be friends with, it just works out that way -- always have. I find women to be more in touch with them selves and I enjoy their company. Don't get me wrong I have male friends (one is my best friend), but as a rule I don't 'click' with guys -- never have. One of the biggest problems I have had is when my friends meet a guy and start dating. More often than not, they get all 'protective' and 'jealous'. Usually they get over it, if they don't that is their problem. My friends are my friends, regardless of the guys opinion. I expect my friends to treat me as a friend, I expect them to trust me and if they are my friend they do regardless of gender. -mike. So I completely disagree with Rebecca on the men don’t need / require intimacy and therefore women should be careful of their relationships with men.

I am a very happily married man. However, most of my friends are women and have been my entire life. It’s not that I look for women to be friends with, it just works out that way — always have. I find women to be more in touch with them selves and I enjoy their company. Don’t get me wrong I have male friends (one is my best friend), but as a rule I don’t ‘click’ with guys — never have.

One of the biggest problems I have had is when my friends meet a guy and start dating. More often than not, they get all ‘protective’ and ‘jealous’. Usually they get over it, if they don’t that is their problem. My friends are my friends, regardless of the guys opinion. I expect my friends to treat me as a friend, I expect them to trust me and if they are my friend they do regardless of gender.

-mike.

]]> By: Ask The Readers: What’s The Difference Between Intimacy And Connection? | The Simple Marriage Project http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-1976 Ask The Readers: What’s The Difference Between Intimacy And Connection? | The Simple Marriage Project Fri, 05 Dec 2008 16:04:01 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-1976 [...] off the momentum from the last word pair, intimacy and sex, let’s continue the discussion. Based on the lively conversation between many of you, sex [...] [...] off the momentum from the last word pair, intimacy and sex, let’s continue the discussion. Based on the lively conversation between many of you, sex [...]

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