Comments on: Ask The Readers: What’s The Difference Between Intimacy And Sex? http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html Keep it simple. Make it better. Thu, 09 Feb 2012 03:38:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: patsy http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-15410 patsy Tue, 03 Jan 2012 00:02:27 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-15410 Rebecca, I was not going to jump into this conversation, but woman you should start a women's column. I have enjoyed hanging in there with you and Lauri. I am in my 50's and I agree we have many lessons and hopefully have gained more wisdom in our walk, but we all do have to be so careful in our walk that Satan does not set a snare before us. I believe that women do seek the intimacy that only God can fill. Recently, my husband and I went on a spiritual retreat (separate weeks). We have since began a journey together in seeking a spiritual intimacy with God and amazingly God has blessed our sexual intimacy. I go back to the scripture, "Seek ye first the kingdom and these things I will give you." God is good and has certainly blessed me as you both have spoken into my life. Rebecca, I was not going to jump into this conversation, but woman you should start a women’s column. I have enjoyed hanging in there with you and Lauri. I am in my 50′s and I agree we have many lessons and hopefully have gained more wisdom in our walk, but we all do have to be so careful in our walk that Satan does not set a snare before us. I believe that women do seek the intimacy that only God can fill. Recently, my husband and I went on a spiritual retreat (separate weeks). We have since began a journey together in seeking a spiritual intimacy with God and amazingly God has blessed our sexual intimacy. I go back to the scripture, “Seek ye first the kingdom and these things I will give you.” God is good and has certainly blessed me as you both have spoken into my life.

]]> By: colleen http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-14013 colleen Mon, 25 Jul 2011 12:29:15 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-14013 Intimacy in not always about sharing deep dark secrets to one another. It's sometimes taking the time to explore by imtimate touches, glances, stroking of the one anothers body without any conversation. I believe intimacy is what heats up the moment before sex begins. Otherwise sex is just sex. Intimacy in not always about sharing deep dark secrets to one another. It’s sometimes taking the time to explore by imtimate touches, glances, stroking of the one anothers body without any conversation.

I believe intimacy is what heats up the moment before sex begins. Otherwise sex is just sex.

]]> By: Paul http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-11094 Paul Sun, 26 Dec 2010 04:55:42 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-11094 Whats the difference between intimacy and sex. I my case theres no difference at all because I don't do either. Its been 25 years without sex or intimacy and I'm perfectly happy with that. My wife on the other hand isn't. I consider our marriage a friendship not a real marriage. Whats the difference between intimacy and sex. I my case theres no difference at all because I don’t do either. Its been 25 years without sex or intimacy and I’m perfectly happy with that. My wife on the other hand isn’t. I consider our marriage a friendship not a real marriage.

]]> By: Nat http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-8882 Nat Wed, 08 Sep 2010 22:19:53 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-8882 My wife and I had any intimacy or sex in just about 30 years. Those two items are a total waste of good sleep time. She has her things and I have mine. its a good relationship no arguements and no communication. The only thing we say is hello and goodby. So you ask whats the difference between sex and intimacy,nothing when you don't have to do either. My wife and I had any intimacy or sex in just about 30 years. Those two items are a total waste of good sleep time. She has her things and I have mine. its a good relationship no arguements and no communication. The only thing we say is hello and goodby.
So you ask whats the difference between sex and intimacy,nothing when you don’t have to do either.

]]> By: R http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-8507 R Sat, 14 Aug 2010 03:52:48 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-8507 It is all hopeless to understand love and intimacy (but easy to do so with sex!) and "create" intimacy, love or "re-create" it. This special feeling of love: nobody knows how and why it appears and how and why it leaves us. It is just a silly attemps to control something nobody has any idea how it works. It is like saying you know what is the meaning of life is. If your philosophy makes you happy day to day - this is fine, but the reality is so much more ugly and beautiful at the same time. And we have NO IDEA what is it all about, but trying to say that yes, we do know where love and intimacy comes from and even how to control it. just fooling ourselves. I might be wrong. But I just know that I know nothing. That would be honest. I do not know what is the meaning of life is and where love and intimacy comes from and how to "re-new" it...and why they go away. You either love or not. If people new where loves come from and how control it - than everyone would be happy all the time, since they would just arrange to have what they want - always there, just tune it up a little to your liking...So you think you have control to revitalize intimacy in your marrage? Keep trying. He either loves you or not. And what even more important: you might not love him as much anymore no matter what you do and it is NOT up to you. It just happened that you are tired to live or do not know what you want anymore. It is all hopeless to understand love and intimacy (but easy to do so with sex!) and “create” intimacy, love or “re-create” it. This special feeling of love: nobody knows how and why it appears and how and why it leaves us. It is just a silly attemps to control something nobody has any idea how it works. It is like saying you know what is the meaning of life is. If your philosophy makes you happy day to day – this is fine, but the reality is so much more ugly and beautiful at the same time. And we have NO IDEA what is it all about, but trying to say that yes, we do know where love and intimacy comes from and even how to control it. just fooling ourselves. I might be wrong. But I just know that I know nothing. That would be honest. I do not know what is the meaning of life is and where love and intimacy comes from and how to “re-new” it…and why they go away. You either love or not. If people new where loves come from and how control it – than everyone would be happy all the time, since they would just arrange to have what they want – always there, just tune it up a little to your liking…So you think you have control to revitalize intimacy in your marrage? Keep trying. He either loves you or not. And what even more important: you might not love him as much anymore no matter what you do and it is NOT up to you. It just happened that you are tired to live or do not know what you want anymore.

]]> By: S http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-8506 S Sat, 14 Aug 2010 03:18:55 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-8506 The difference is in the function. Inimacy is for soul, body and mind. Sex is for body only. Therefore sex is more simple in its function and as a result not that scary as intimacy (which could be overwelming for some people who do not know how to handle it). Does it sound right? The difference is in the function. Inimacy is for soul, body and mind. Sex is for body only. Therefore sex is more simple in its function and as a result not that scary as intimacy (which could be overwelming for some people who do not know how to handle it). Does it sound right?

]]> By: Nat http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-8459 Nat Sat, 07 Aug 2010 04:05:03 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-8459 I have no idea what the difference is! I do know that I don't like either one. Intimacy is creepy and sex does nothing for me, just a waste of time. I have no idea what the difference is! I do know that I don’t like either one. Intimacy is creepy and sex does nothing for me, just a waste of time.

]]> By: landschooner http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-7628 landschooner Tue, 25 May 2010 06:41:04 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-7628 if men confuse intimacy with sex..... Sex with the woman that they love, IS intimacy for men. They don't confuse it. It isn't the totality of intimacy, but it is intimacy. It is being the very MOST vulnerable possible. Vulnerable and accepted and hopefully desired. With the woman that they love, sex is the #1 way that men RECEIVE love from their wives. (Not the #1 way they show it, but the #1 way they receive it.) They aren't confused. It IS intimacy for them. Just because one gender "tends" to see things one way more than the other doesn't mean there is confusion in one gender. I could just as easily say that women confuse sex with a pure physical need. How does that explain males almost ubiquitous need to feel desired by their wives. That isn't physical at all. if men confuse intimacy with sex…..

Sex with the woman that they love, IS intimacy for men. They don’t confuse it.

It isn’t the totality of intimacy, but it is intimacy. It is being the very MOST vulnerable possible. Vulnerable and accepted and hopefully desired. With the woman that they love, sex is the #1 way that men RECEIVE love from their wives. (Not the #1 way they show it, but the #1 way they receive it.) They aren’t confused. It IS intimacy for them.

Just because one gender “tends” to see things one way more than the other doesn’t mean there is confusion in one gender. I could just as easily say that women confuse sex with a pure physical need. How does that explain males almost ubiquitous need to feel desired by their wives. That isn’t physical at all.

]]> By: Debby http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-5912 Debby Fri, 22 Jan 2010 01:48:26 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-5912 Stephanie put it well. To carry it a step further, most women need intimacy to share herself with a man and have sex. To me, intimacy is truly sharing my heart and soul, but not necessarily having to have sex. Sex is an act, intimacy is a feeling, an emotion if you will. Stephanie put it well. To carry it a step further, most women need intimacy to share herself with a man and have sex. To me, intimacy is truly sharing my heart and soul, but not necessarily having to have sex. Sex is an act, intimacy is a feeling, an emotion if you will.

]]> By: jeweller http://www.simplemarriage.net/ask-the-readers-whats-the-difference-between-intimacy-and-sex.html#comment-3142 jeweller Tue, 07 Apr 2009 11:44:58 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=793#comment-3142 Intimacy has much deeper meaning of love and emotions Intimacy has much deeper meaning of love and emotions

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