Last weekend’s ask the reader was a great discussion, so here’s another that may be equally good.
Once again, if you want to go a bit deeper with this, journal or discuss more with family and friends.
Being in love means…
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Photo courtesy Mr. Theklan
Being in love means…compromising when you really don’t want to!
Always doing what is best for the other person.
Being in love means….Never having to say your sorry…. No not really. That was just a really stupid movie that came out when I was little.
Here is my serious answer:
Being is love means wanting to share the most vulnerable part of yourself with someone else and them with you knowing that it will be cherished, respected, and kissed gently.
Love is when they are your world… love is when that person doesn’t complicate your life but they compliment it. When no matter what they have on they still look amazing to you. When you are with them time seems to fly but when you are apa…rt it takes forevr to see them again. When even though they have made you mad or have hurt you, you can’t help but love them. How when you see them your stomach still gets butterflies and you begin to smile no matter what mood you are in. When they touch you, you get cold chills all over. When the hardest thing to do is to say good bye. When everytime you blink their face is all you see and everytime you day dream they are all you dream about. When someone can look at you and see love in your eyes. When you can be clear across the room from them and know the second they walk into a room. When you can be in the middle of a conversation with someone and just glance at them and all of a sudden time begins to slow down and it becomes just you and him and that’s the way you want it to be. When reality becomes better then a dream and life seems to good to be true. That’s what love is. It’s the feelings you only experience in those special moments that are spent with the one you love.See More
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Love is when they are your world… love is when that person doesn’t complicate your life but they compliment it. When no matter what they have on they still look amazing to you. When you are with them time seems to fly but when you are apa…rt it takes forevr to see them again. When even though they have made you mad or have hurt you, you can’t help but love them. How when you see them your stomach still gets butterflies and you begin to smile no matter what mood you are in. When they touch you, you get cold chills all over. When the hardest thing to do is to say good bye. When everytime you blink their face is all you see and everytime you day dream they are all you dream about. When someone can look at you and see love in your eyes. When you can be clear across the room from them and know the second they walk into a room. When you can be in the middle of a conversation with someone and just glance at them and all of a sudden time begins to slow down and it becomes just you and him and that’s the way you want it to be. When reality becomes better then a dream and life seems to good to be true. That’s what love is. It’s the feelings you only experience in those special moments that are spent with the one you love.See More
respecting your partners opposition
Ah the key word- respect.
It’s often difficult to respect a person who opposes us. Great thought.
Being driven crazy with having someone underfoot too much. At my age i guess im done with trying to deal with supporting a man. I just want my freedom for myself and to be able to pay MY OWN Bills and Pay for things I WANT. Yeah sounds selfish or stingy but 13 yrs of it is Way too long for me.
Cherishing the little “annoying things” that your significant other does, because you know that they are the first things you would miss if you didn’t have them.
Being in love means…not always feeling “in love” but being dedicated and comitted to making a relationship work….whether feeling “in love” or not. Hopefully In love more often!
Being in love means supporting each other while offering encouragement and advice when necessary, respecting each other, accepting each other (flaws and all), and remaining loyal to the commitment you’ve made to one another.
Love the addition of the idea of choice.
I want to add another one.
Being in love means you have made the choice to be in love.
I just join this dating site looking for the right woman to spend the
rest of my my friendship with and you happen to be the first woman i met on here
and i hope you will be the last.. Do you have an access to yahoo
instant messenger so we chat get to know each other and show you my pics as
well?
Not me Jonas. Been married for 26 years now. I read your definition of love. That kind of love lasts a short whie. Here is a more realistic definition of long lasting love. Love is cleaning up their puck when they have the flu!
Being in love means you CHOOSE to love your mate, even when you don’t feel like it.
Love the addition of the idea of choice.
i trust him, i respect him, i share my life with him and i feel happy to have him in my life.
Being in love means to share what you have and to take each other into consideration.
Being in love means…
(Cripes! What does it mean to be in love?!?!….)
To live your life in such a way that your vessel is full (or you’re at least striving to fill it), then to combine that full vessel with another, creating a river supplied by an infinite source, a river with no end.
(Sometimes it’s easier to answer questions like that with something poetic/philosophical that doesn’t really answer the question.)
P.S. I remember a book from my childhood. I think it was titled “Love Is…” I loved that book!!! Anyone remember that???
Whether this is poetic or not – it’s in line with my belief, live your life fully, your spouse does the same, equals a marriage fully alive!
Being in love means… celebrating the good times & hanging on through the lows. Love isn’t always easy & you have to want it, work on it & respect it (and each other) for it to grow & flourish.
Being in love means… Loving someone so completely with everything that you are that being without them would be like ripping your soul apart.
At least that’s how in love I am with my husband. It’s as though we were never complete until we found one another (as lame as that may sound)
Being in love means – you hold their needs/wants higher than your own.
Being in love means protecting your relationship from workaholism and vices that cause it to become last on the list of importance….relationships need nuturing
Being in love means you have to work your way through life with you partner
weather you have good or bad feelings for your partner, live the life you are suposed to live ! = )
Hmmm — Me thinks I may not be in love anymore…. Now what do i do?
@AllIsNotLost- While love is typically seen as a feeling or an emotion, I believe love is largely a choice. It will ebb and flow. The important thing to me is to stay with it during its ebb.
How long do you wait?
When I was at church the other week, the priest said something that stuck with me. When you marry and date you are always in love. But there will be those moments when you will not love your partner because we are all human and have flaws. It is during those moments that you must rely on God to get you through your marriage. I’m not that religious, so that being said, being in love means loving your partner even when you don’t want too.
Understanding that change starts with yourself
Acceptance of all the little quirks you grow to love anyway (even though you used to think “I wish he wouldn't do….”)
Wanting what's best for them…even if it isn't in line with what you want
^.^
Caring for the other person and wishing her well….I think that would be enough.
knowing nothing is impossible to resolve between the two of you
Being 'in love' is the easy part! In my opinion, being in love means being attracted to who you think someone is, physically, emotionally, and mentally. Being in love is wanting to spend every moment together; and when you can't be together, you're still thinking about them. It's true love that's the hard part…being loving when you don't feel like it. Doing the hard work of marriage because you have committed to that person, even though you may not even be sure you want to. It's trusting, and working, and trying and believing in the hard times.
Being in love means to sacrifice any and everything for someone else. I am in love now and I did not know what it meant at first but after seeing my love sacrifice everything he had for me…I knew that I would be in love with this man forever
…blind hope.
Maybe God shields our eyes with love, helping us take the leap…
the key is growing the love into something deeper, so when our eyes are no longer blinded with love, we can stay and open the gift that God has shared…
Being in love means… it’s all worth it.
Love means learning to TRUST those who are trustworthy!
That unfortunately can be a very costly lesson to learn. That holds true for any definition of cost you’d care to think of.
- I wish you all Peace and Mucho Love!
: )
what if you don’t love your husband and never did. you got married very hastily and on the rebound but you cant leave now because you have two kids and you dont want to hurt them
@ Sally: You should first identify what it is about your husband that you dont love and how is it so difficult to learn to love him? Are you not physically attracted to him does he treat you well? What is holding you back from loving him, what is missing: passion, attraction, excitemnt…what???
Lish, those are great questions.
I think we all feel ‘lost’ at times in our marriages and we often have to re-aquaint ourselve with our spouse and really take the time to get to know them again, discover what you love about that person.
I love my boyfriend so much that i dont think i can even stomach the thought of being without him. The mere thought alone is so painful, it literally makes me cry to think of the possibility of being without him. He’s actually my first bf and i know how to let go (I ended the relationship once before but he kept coming back) but this time around I honestly would never want to live without him. I am so certain that i wnat to marry this man, that I’d do it tomorrow if he asked me to. I’m hooked and i want this man for the rest of his life or mine…whichever is longest. lol <3
Well ,love is something else,it feels really good to have that feeling but it feels even better when ur mate feels the same way,with that being said I trully found someone that I trully loves he makes me so very happy,I’m a very hard person to turn on but he gets me every time,I love this man with all my womans worth . Love is good and we all need to find someone who loves us no matter now that’s true true love