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Comment on How to have great sex when you’re not in the mood by Gina Parris

Gina Parris — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 00:04:29 +0000

Well, these days it is as easy as a decision, but for the better part of 14 years, I was as baffled as you are at the thought of turning on my non-existent sex drive. When my husband would bring it up in his exasperation, I wanted to kick his teeth in! (This was at least every month. It got so old, I would end up in tears and it would be a big ordeal.)
If you can look at your life and your mate’s life and feel certain that you are fulfilling your true potential in all the areas, and you are happy, then there’s no worries.
But if you know this is an issue, than I’m convinced your beautiful, God-given erotic energy is simply blocked. My only consolation over my deep regrets looking back, is that I can help other people find breakthrough now.
There is unbelievable peace available when you can unlock the trifecta of love, romance and sex. So it’s worth at least exploring how to regain some sizzle.

Comment on How to have great sex when you’re not in the mood by anonymous

anonymous — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 22:24:51 +0000

you make it sound so easy – like it’s merely a decision to have a great sex life. i’ve gotten that impression from this post, as well as reading your website and hearing you on sexy marriage radio. what if one is no longer interested in even having a sex life?

Comment on How to have great sex when you’re not in the mood by Gina Parris

Gina Parris — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 20:16:19 +0000

Yep. I agree with you. I’m sorry that alcohol is certainly not bringing out the best in him, nor in the potential for a sweet and racy sex life. Hopefully you can have some healing conversations when he is quite sober and let him know what you truly do find attractive and arousing as well why his drunken behavior is such a turn off.

Comment on How to commit to the end by 25 Personal Development Bloggers to Rock Your World | The Bold Life

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Comment on How to have great sex when you’re not in the mood by Forestdancer

Forestdancer — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 16:33:05 +0000

I agree with you about sex being a way of fulfilling or answering a need of your spouse, but I would like to know what you think about a husband wanting anal sex or to put fingers in his wife’s butt, when she has repeatedly said that is a complete turnoff for her. It is like a light switch type of turnoff, fingers go near, turned off, period. After 27 years of marriage, it is a new thing for him, especially when he is drunk. That is a large part of why I dont want to accomodate him. I have limits, and it does feel like he is trying to have anal sex due to a drunken condition. Amidst criticism and other negative things that happen when he is drinking, this is the one thing I feel I have control over. I should be able to say I dont want butt sex. What do you think about this?

Comment on How to have great sex when you’re not in the mood by Gina Parris

Gina Parris — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 15:34:29 +0000

Well this is actually a philosophy from the Bible that says “The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.” *
All truth can contain the “letter of the law that kills” and the “spirit of the law” that gives life. It is pretty sickening when people distort truths that were meant to be lived out in love and joy and use it for something destructive like as you say, rape. Yuck. That’s a pretty extreme example. But I think when we come at everything from a spirit of love, than we can grow up into our full potential by learning and giving and growing together.

Comment on How to have great sex when you’re not in the mood by Rhonda

Rhonda — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 13:29:54 +0000

I agree with all of this except the part about my body belonging to someone else. I understand what you’re trying to say, but saying it in this way seems dangerously close to ideas that lead to rape within a marriage. I don’t believe this was your intention, but you may want to rephrase that part.

Comment on Why Is Sex So Important to You? by Nichole

Nichole — Sun, 05 Feb 2012 06:32:22 +0000

Cheri ,Oh my heart wants to sing for joy to finally see that “someone “might get it!Then I am left with the reality that this is a long tiring road . I have 3 kids that fit the many lists to a T and still have never received the label they would need to receive the help they deserve .I have been actively seeking for about 7 years now.As for my husband he will be 40 this year and this is the first time I have heard that label (maybe) being placed on him. I have always worried and hurt for the future of my kids and just thought one day I’ll get my turn or he’ll come around . It doesn’t sound like that will be the case . I think I will always be alone in carry the burden of filling everyone’s needs . Best of luck Cheri! Thanks for sharing!

Comment on How To Talk About Sex With Your Spouse by robkeck

robkeck — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 18:11:39 +0000

I think the challenge is not the talking about it part but the meaning that we gave to it.People are ashamed of talking about sex with their spouse is mainly because it is not seen as eating together,or riding a bike but something more secret and kind of difficult to say out loud.So first the meaning that we give to it must be corrected particularly among married couples.like we are not ashamed of asking our spouse to dine together.

Comment on Lighter Side: Heart On Your Sleeve by Sexy Christian Wife

Sexy Christian Wife — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 22:58:38 +0000

Love it!