Comments for Simple Marriage http://www.simplemarriage.net A better marriage by keeping it simple. Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:53:12 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 Comment on From Nice to Adults Only Marriage by Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/nice-marriage-to-adults-only-marriage.html#comment-6928 Corey Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:53:12 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=4410#comment-6928 On what page are you referring? On what page are you referring?

]]> Comment on From Nice to Adults Only Marriage by Paul Byerly http://www.simplemarriage.net/nice-marriage-to-adults-only-marriage.html#comment-6927 Paul Byerly Fri, 19 Mar 2010 00:00:21 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=4410#comment-6927 Corey, No "form below" to sing up on! Paul Corey,

No “form below” to sing up on!

Paul

]]> Comment on The Virtuous Marriage: Sincerity by Apples and Porsches » Blog Archive » Wholestyle on the Web http://www.simplemarriage.net/the-virtuous-marriage-sincerity.html#comment-6925 Apples and Porsches » Blog Archive » Wholestyle on the Web Thu, 18 Mar 2010 17:13:10 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=4323#comment-6925 [...] Simple Marriage: The Virtuous Marriage – Sincerity This is the 7th post in a series about living the virtuous life like Benjamin Franklin. At the core of sincerity is honesty in conduct and communication. [...] [...] Simple Marriage: The Virtuous Marriage – Sincerity This is the 7th post in a series about living the virtuous life like Benjamin Franklin. At the core of sincerity is honesty in conduct and communication. [...]

]]> Comment on From Nice to Adults Only Marriage by Dori http://www.simplemarriage.net/nice-marriage-to-adults-only-marriage.html#comment-6924 Dori Thu, 18 Mar 2010 15:59:37 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=4410#comment-6924 This really resonated for me! I like the way you put it, and I have not really thought about it like that. Im also trying to be present more together as in your below post. It's very infuriating to compete with a box......and loose. Xbox, TV, Comp., ect. I find it to be a constant seduction, to try and lure a man away from these. But so worth it, when you can connect for that 1.5 time. It has to be a priority. Also, making an investment in an activity together really is so sweet and renewing, not to mention it's what we work so hard for! Time to live our life.....together! This really resonated for me! I like the way you put it, and I have not really thought about it like that.

Im also trying to be present more together as in your below post. It’s very infuriating to compete with a box……and loose. Xbox, TV, Comp., ect. I find it to be a constant seduction, to try and lure a man away from these. But so worth it, when you can connect for that 1.5 time. It has to be a priority.

Also, making an investment in an activity together really is so sweet and renewing, not to mention it’s what we work so hard for! Time to live our life…..together!

]]> Comment on From Nice to Adults Only Marriage by Melinda http://www.simplemarriage.net/nice-marriage-to-adults-only-marriage.html#comment-6923 Melinda Thu, 18 Mar 2010 14:15:18 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=4410#comment-6923 Reading this post something came to my mind: the Maslow Pyramid. There was the level of Belonging, and the level of Esteem – but no-one told me then that for reaching the higher level of Esteem sometimes you need to risk the Belonging (at least, the illusion of that, when the accepted one is Mr/Ms Nice, and not the Real You). Coming to that, risking the levels below might be necessary for Self-Actualization, too: eg. the good opinion of someone I respect if I give up something that "should" be satisfying, except that it isn't, or drifting away from a group I loved once because my values have changed. All small Dramas of Being Nice vs. Being Real. Reading this post something came to my mind: the Maslow Pyramid. There was the level of Belonging, and the level of Esteem – but no-one told me then that for reaching the higher level of Esteem sometimes you need to risk the Belonging (at least, the illusion of that, when the accepted one is Mr/Ms Nice, and not the Real You).

Coming to that, risking the levels below might be necessary for Self-Actualization, too: eg. the good opinion of someone I respect if I give up something that “should” be satisfying, except that it isn’t, or drifting away from a group I loved once because my values have changed. All small Dramas of Being Nice vs. Being Real.

]]> Comment on The 1% Experience by Chris @ Cleverfather http://www.simplemarriage.net/the-1-experience.html#comment-6922 Chris @ Cleverfather Thu, 18 Mar 2010 03:03:22 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=4335#comment-6922 Simple yet effective. With the little one in our lives, my blogging, and the wife's new photography business it's been a constant gong show. We've decided to purposely set time aside to just be together. No distractions.... well maybe a little TV! Simple yet effective. With the little one in our lives, my blogging, and the wife’s new photography business it’s been a constant gong show. We’ve decided to purposely set time aside to just be together. No distractions…. well maybe a little TV!

]]> Comment on From Nice to Adults Only Marriage by Shannon O | Confessions of a Loving Wife http://www.simplemarriage.net/nice-marriage-to-adults-only-marriage.html#comment-6920 Shannon O | Confessions of a Loving Wife Thu, 18 Mar 2010 00:37:40 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=4410#comment-6920 Love this line Corey: "passion and eroticism can only exist in the space between you." What an excellent motivation to keep some separateness in our marriages. Thanks! Love this line Corey: “passion and eroticism can only exist in the space between you.”

What an excellent motivation to keep some separateness in our marriages.

Thanks!

]]> Comment on The Nice Guy Syndrome by From Nice to Adults Only Marriage — Simple Marriage http://www.simplemarriage.net/the-nice-guy-syndrome.html#comment-6919 From Nice to Adults Only Marriage — Simple Marriage Wed, 17 Mar 2010 23:12:09 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=4136#comment-6919 [...] Nice Guys and Nice Girls have been speaking up a great deal lately, both in the comments on these posts and in emails I’ve received over the past couple of weeks. Apparently, this discussion is hitting close to home. [...] [...] Nice Guys and Nice Girls have been speaking up a great deal lately, both in the comments on these posts and in emails I’ve received over the past couple of weeks. Apparently, this discussion is hitting close to home. [...]

]]> Comment on The 1% Experience by Jen http://www.simplemarriage.net/the-1-experience.html#comment-6918 Jen Wed, 17 Mar 2010 13:53:38 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=4335#comment-6918 This information is great! I printed it out for dh to read when he gets home from work. Sounds like a simple concept that makes total sense. This information is great! I printed it out for dh to read when he gets home from work. Sounds like a simple concept that makes total sense.

]]> Comment on The 1% Experience by Lori Lowe http://www.simplemarriage.net/the-1-experience.html#comment-6917 Lori Lowe Wed, 17 Mar 2010 13:05:09 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=4335#comment-6917 I admit I can become absorbed in accomplishing so many tasks--work, cleaning, laundry, exercising, cooking--that I forget some days to set aside that lazy time with my honey. But 1% seems quite doable, especially when you put it that way. I find that to really relax we often need to get out of the house together for a quick lunch, a walk or a date night. It keeps the household distractions away. Great reminder. I wrote a post on true connectivity that discussed the need to truly connect (even gadget-free)! http://wp.me/pgTZD-85 Best, Lori Lowe www.lifegems4marriage.com I admit I can become absorbed in accomplishing so many tasks–work, cleaning, laundry, exercising, cooking–that I forget some days to set aside that lazy time with my honey. But 1% seems quite doable, especially when you put it that way. I find that to really relax we often need to get out of the house together for a quick lunch, a walk or a date night. It keeps the household distractions away. Great reminder.
I wrote a post on true connectivity that discussed the need to truly connect (even gadget-free)! http://wp.me/pgTZD-85
Best,
Lori Lowe
http://www.lifegems4marriage.com

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