Comments on: Do you have your feelings? Or do your feelings have you? http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-have-your-feelings-or-do-your-feelings-have-you.html Keep it simple. Make it better. Thu, 09 Feb 2012 03:38:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: magambe http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-have-your-feelings-or-do-your-feelings-have-you.html#comment-7242 magambe Sat, 17 Apr 2010 13:22:38 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=1654#comment-7242 Feeling, is a verb "a feeling" and an "emotion" is a noun. Feelings arent tied to emotions whereas emotions are tied to feelings. For example you can feel cold/hot, tingling etc. Feeling describes the state of a physical object or being. You can be cold emotionally but that doesnt take into account your physical state, for its only your state of mind Feeling, is a verb “a feeling” and an “emotion” is a noun. Feelings arent tied to emotions whereas emotions are tied to feelings. For example you can feel cold/hot, tingling etc. Feeling describes the state of a physical object or being. You can be cold emotionally but that doesnt take into account your physical state, for its only your state of mind

]]> By: Laurie http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-have-your-feelings-or-do-your-feelings-have-you.html#comment-3196 Laurie Sat, 11 Apr 2009 16:55:26 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=1654#comment-3196 I know that there are many things I can choose. For instance,I can choose to be insulted, offended, embarrassed, hurt, please, satisfied, happy, optimistic etc. I believe I get into to trouble when the stimulus is hitting a hot button then while I know I still have choice, it seems I cannot gain control enough to exercise that choice. Make sense? I know that there are many things I can choose. For instance,I can choose to be insulted, offended, embarrassed, hurt, please, satisfied, happy, optimistic etc. I believe I get into to trouble when the stimulus is hitting a hot button then while I know I still have choice, it seems I cannot gain control enough to exercise that choice. Make sense?

]]> By: V. Higgins http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-have-your-feelings-or-do-your-feelings-have-you.html#comment-3167 V. Higgins Thu, 09 Apr 2009 17:17:47 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=1654#comment-3167 I grew up with a somewhat authoritarian dad and he *did not* like emotions. I really think he felt at a loss with what to do with two daughters. As much as that may have made for some hurtful memories, he did teach me that emotions follow your will, eventually. Though they may come up unexpectedly and seem overwhelming, ultimately you choose where you end up. Example: love is a choice of will; affection, attraction, etc are feelings. When you make that choice of will "I am going to serve this person" and act on it, many times the warm-fuzzy feelings follow. Granted, as with almost everything, there are exceptions (clinical depression, SAD, etc.). But in general, eventually you can decide whether or not to give in to a feeling (pouting, self pity) or direct them toward a better place. I grew up with a somewhat authoritarian dad and he *did not* like emotions. I really think he felt at a loss with what to do with two daughters. As much as that may have made for some hurtful memories, he did teach me that emotions follow your will, eventually. Though they may come up unexpectedly and seem overwhelming, ultimately you choose where you end up.
Example: love is a choice of will; affection, attraction, etc are feelings. When you make that choice of will “I am going to serve this person” and act on it, many times the warm-fuzzy feelings follow.
Granted, as with almost everything, there are exceptions (clinical depression, SAD, etc.). But in general, eventually you can decide whether or not to give in to a feeling (pouting, self pity) or direct them toward a better place.

]]> By: Heather http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-have-your-feelings-or-do-your-feelings-have-you.html#comment-3166 Heather Thu, 09 Apr 2009 16:56:18 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=1654#comment-3166 I really like what Jennifer said. I would add that I think that thoughts (which for me are logical) can influence feelings, but it takes control. I'm horrible at it, especially when I'm upset. My logic tells me that my tears are unnecessary, but I still can't seem to curb the feeling. I really like what Jennifer said. I would add that I think that thoughts (which for me are logical) can influence feelings, but it takes control. I’m horrible at it, especially when I’m upset. My logic tells me that my tears are unnecessary, but I still can’t seem to curb the feeling.

]]> By: starrlife http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-have-your-feelings-or-do-your-feelings-have-you.html#comment-3163 starrlife Thu, 09 Apr 2009 14:09:14 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=1654#comment-3163 The relationship between feelings(physical=sensation), emotions and cognition is a fascinating and sometimes hard to pinpoint one. We tend to mush them altogether, verbally and experientially. With the popularity of cognitive therapy, ie. DBT (Dialectical behavioral therapy), CBT the trend is to help people learn to differentiate and articulate thoughts apart from emotions using wise mind and other eastern based skills. I think of myself as an "intuitive" person who's perceptions>emotion>thought process is very quick and hard to pin down. To sit down and actually think purposely about things is hard for me and alien. Whereas my H. is a slow processor, thinking things through methodically over a long period of time. Needless to say that can create some difficulties! Oooh- sounds like a good post! Thanks.... The relationship between feelings(physical=sensation), emotions and cognition is a fascinating and sometimes hard to pinpoint one. We tend to mush them altogether, verbally and experientially. With the popularity of cognitive therapy, ie. DBT (Dialectical behavioral therapy), CBT the trend is to help people learn to differentiate and articulate thoughts apart from emotions using wise mind and other eastern based skills. I think of myself as an “intuitive” person who’s perceptions>emotion>thought process is very quick and hard to pin down. To sit down and actually think purposely about things is hard for me and alien. Whereas my H. is a slow processor, thinking things through methodically over a long period of time. Needless to say that can create some difficulties! Oooh- sounds like a good post! Thanks….

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-have-your-feelings-or-do-your-feelings-have-you.html#comment-3158 Jennifer Wed, 08 Apr 2009 20:10:51 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=1654#comment-3158 This post is well-timed. DH and I had a strong.. ahem.. conversation... the other day on the difference between thoughts and feelings. To me, they are very different.. to him, they are one in the same. My thoughts are based in logic, on facts... but my feelings may be based on gut, on intuition and not always be rational. They are tied to my emotions, to my past... As for the difference between emotions and feelings, I'd say emotions are more general and feelings specific to an issue, event, person, situation. This post is well-timed. DH and I had a strong.. ahem.. conversation… the other day on the difference between thoughts and feelings. To me, they are very different.. to him, they are one in the same. My thoughts are based in logic, on facts… but my feelings may be based on gut, on intuition and not always be rational. They are tied to my emotions, to my past… As for the difference between emotions and feelings, I’d say emotions are more general and feelings specific to an issue, event, person, situation.

]]> By: Amy http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-have-your-feelings-or-do-your-feelings-have-you.html#comment-3157 Amy Wed, 08 Apr 2009 20:10:04 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=1654#comment-3157 I'm not sure the difference between emotions and feelings. But I've always been taught in marriage to separate my feelings from my husband. Instead of saying, "You make me feel..." I say, "I feel..." It's okay to feel lonely, afraid, or hurt, but you have to own those feelings as your own without blaming them on others. I’m not sure the difference between emotions and feelings. But I’ve always been taught in marriage to separate my feelings from my husband. Instead of saying, “You make me feel…” I say, “I feel…” It’s okay to feel lonely, afraid, or hurt, but you have to own those feelings as your own without blaming them on others.

]]> By: Lori http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-have-your-feelings-or-do-your-feelings-have-you.html#comment-3156 Lori Wed, 08 Apr 2009 19:39:54 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=1654#comment-3156 I think your feelings often times needed to be guided with thought, prayer, time (to allow the most intense of emotions to subside) and outside feedback. There is a balance that needs to happen! Also, most of the advertising today is geared at our emotions where 40 years ago it was more based on facts of the products. It's worsened the 'entitlement" phase of America, (you're worth it, you deserve it, you owe it to yourself. etc.) I think your feelings often times needed to be guided with thought, prayer, time (to allow the most intense of emotions to subside) and outside feedback. There is a balance that needs to happen!

Also, most of the advertising today is geared at our emotions where 40 years ago it was more based on facts of the products. It’s worsened the ‘entitlement” phase of America, (you’re worth it, you deserve it, you owe it to yourself. etc.)

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