Comments on: Do You Want Your Marriage To Survive Or Thrive? http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-want-your-marriage-to-survive-or-thrive.html Keep it simple. Make it better. Thu, 09 Feb 2012 03:12:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-want-your-marriage-to-survive-or-thrive.html#comment-4499 Corey Fri, 21 Aug 2009 20:46:57 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=2608#comment-4499 Thanks Alison- the idea of a conversation piece every so often is not a bad idea, but keep in mind my belief about communication in committed relationships - you can not not communicate. Most often the problem is that we don't like the message being sent. Best of luck on the new level of honesty in your marriage, may things continue to get better each day. Blessings. Thanks Alison- the idea of a conversation piece every so often is not a bad idea, but keep in mind my belief about communication in committed relationships – you can not not communicate. Most often the problem is that we don’t like the message being sent.

Best of luck on the new level of honesty in your marriage, may things continue to get better each day. Blessings.

]]> By: Alison http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-want-your-marriage-to-survive-or-thrive.html#comment-4489 Alison Fri, 21 Aug 2009 07:13:33 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=2608#comment-4489 Corey, This is a great post. I commented on the status of my marriage on one of your recent guest posts on another blog. I don't know if you remember, or not, but I wanted to let you know that my marriage is THRIVING!!! For a long time (actually, nearly the whole time we've been together - 2 1/2 years), it was a marriage that was barely surviving, and in the last couple months, it was falling completely apart. Almost 2 weeks ago, I found out about my husband's infidelity and it presented an opportunity for me to be completely honest with him about my own infidelity. Miraculously, we are both determined to forgive each other, realign our misplaced priorities, and to have a thriving marriage. I'll be bold enough to say that the grace of God is playing a part in this one! He asked me to send him the link to your blog, so he can have the little reminders and encouragers to stay focused on a beautiful marriage. :) One thing that is key to our success is really open communication founded on love. I was wondering if you would be interested in posting a conversation piece every so often that would be a beneficial topic for couples needing to grow in that aspect of intimacy? I appreciate your blog and that you do offer these "services" freely. You're doing a great thing! Thank you! Corey,
This is a great post. I commented on the status of my marriage on one of your recent guest posts on another blog. I don’t know if you remember, or not, but I wanted to let you know that my marriage is THRIVING!!! For a long time (actually, nearly the whole time we’ve been together – 2 1/2 years), it was a marriage that was barely surviving, and in the last couple months, it was falling completely apart. Almost 2 weeks ago, I found out about my husband’s infidelity and it presented an opportunity for me to be completely honest with him about my own infidelity. Miraculously, we are both determined to forgive each other, realign our misplaced priorities, and to have a thriving marriage. I’ll be bold enough to say that the grace of God is playing a part in this one! He asked me to send him the link to your blog, so he can have the little reminders and encouragers to stay focused on a beautiful marriage. :)

One thing that is key to our success is really open communication founded on love. I was wondering if you would be interested in posting a conversation piece every so often that would be a beneficial topic for couples needing to grow in that aspect of intimacy?

I appreciate your blog and that you do offer these “services” freely. You’re doing a great thing!

Thank you!

]]> By: jody bates http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-want-your-marriage-to-survive-or-thrive.html#comment-4468 jody bates Thu, 20 Aug 2009 17:42:00 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=2608#comment-4468 falling apart after 13 yrs of marrage and 18 years together. Its seems to be all me (paranoia) about what could be rather than letting it flow. we have had the same arguement day in and day out. usually after we have an awesome time out toghether. falling apart after 13 yrs of marrage and 18 years together. Its seems to be all me (paranoia) about what could be rather than letting it flow.

we have had the same arguement day in and day out. usually after we have an awesome time out toghether.

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-want-your-marriage-to-survive-or-thrive.html#comment-4425 Corey Sat, 15 Aug 2009 17:58:17 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=2608#comment-4425 Thanks for the comment Celeste - and for the email. I tried to reply to your email but it keeps bouncing back. If you have another address, send me another email and I'll try that one. Have a great weekend! Thanks for the comment Celeste – and for the email. I tried to reply to your email but it keeps bouncing back. If you have another address, send me another email and I’ll try that one. Have a great weekend!

]]> By: Celeste Simpson http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-want-your-marriage-to-survive-or-thrive.html#comment-4415 Celeste Simpson Fri, 14 Aug 2009 19:51:18 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=2608#comment-4415 I definitely did not think you were trying to sell your services...definitely never the term used " hawking". I read as more of a challenge to help your marriage thrive. Everyone responds better to something if it's in a thriving environment, but we have to be ready and willing to first, acknowledge what needs improvement and secondly, work on it. That's what I got. Paint by numbers clearly means someone did it for you. Realizing you can have a thriving=meaning NEVER STOPS GROWING...marriage beyond extraordinaire means you have to work together. And, that if you do not pay attention closely, you will miss the signs and next steps to be taken to get there! Your awesome I definitely did not think you were trying to sell your services…definitely never the term used ” hawking”. I read as more of a challenge to help your marriage thrive. Everyone responds better to something if it’s in a thriving environment, but we have to be ready and willing to first, acknowledge what needs improvement and secondly, work on it. That’s what I got. Paint by numbers clearly means someone did it for you. Realizing you can have a thriving=meaning NEVER STOPS GROWING…marriage beyond extraordinaire means you have to work together. And, that if you do not pay attention closely, you will miss the signs and next steps to be taken to get there!

Your awesome

]]> By: David Carlson http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-want-your-marriage-to-survive-or-thrive.html#comment-4413 David Carlson Fri, 14 Aug 2009 18:09:57 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=2608#comment-4413 "The first step is to believe" is most important. Three friends of mine suffer from anxiety and depression, long-term, but more seriously now. Their fears are self-generated. They are hitting a wall of self-doubt. They have lost the sense of purpose in life. Your advice applies not only to those of us who thrive in marriage. “The first step is to believe” is most important. Three friends of mine suffer from anxiety and depression, long-term, but more seriously now. Their fears are self-generated. They are hitting a wall of self-doubt. They have lost the sense of purpose in life. Your advice applies not only to those of us who thrive in marriage.

]]> By: LaDonna http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-want-your-marriage-to-survive-or-thrive.html#comment-4405 LaDonna Fri, 14 Aug 2009 03:03:47 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=2608#comment-4405 My marriage gets better all the time - looking at the length of it - with lots of ups and downs. I don't want to just survive; we've done that; we're moving on to thriving now. My marriage gets better all the time – looking at the length of it – with lots of ups and downs. I don’t want to just survive; we’ve done that; we’re moving on to thriving now.

]]> By: Matthew http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-want-your-marriage-to-survive-or-thrive.html#comment-4402 Matthew Fri, 14 Aug 2009 00:23:18 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=2608#comment-4402 My wife and I entered into our marriage determined not to just survive. Yes, this means it takes more effort, but our friendship (and love) grow stronger every day because of it. We have made it through some hard times as well as sharing the joy of happy ones. I get to see my best friend every day and share my life with her. What more could I ask for? My wife and I entered into our marriage determined not to just survive. Yes, this means it takes more effort, but our friendship (and love) grow stronger every day because of it. We have made it through some hard times as well as sharing the joy of happy ones.

I get to see my best friend every day and share my life with her. What more could I ask for?

]]> By: Laurie http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-want-your-marriage-to-survive-or-thrive.html#comment-4385 Laurie Wed, 12 Aug 2009 20:39:13 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=2608#comment-4385 I read that line but didn't think it was inappropriate Corey. I know we've all been to the grocery store where they are handing out samples of their products. By doing this they obviously want to give you an idea of what you get when you buy product X. This blog (IMHO) along with MOST of the blogs out there are like that. Corey, you give out samples of what can be offered on a much grander scale should someone choose to purchase your services. I love that. If I am going to spend the money on marriage coaching or therapy, it's great to already know your philosophy by reading your blog. If I am not in need of coaching or therapy, then I still benefit by all the wonderful information you give out for free here on your blog. I'm not sure people realize that you hold a PhD in marriage and family therapy. Most Phd's wouldn't give out any information without an appointment costing 100+ dollars for a 50 minute hour. You give freely here and make a difference for people who are regular readers of SM. It is their choice as to whether or not they take it a step further and hire you to take their marriage to the next level. I truly believe that if you didn't promote yourself, people wouldn't realize all that you can do for them. They wouldn't know the tremendous resource that you are. Don't apologize for promoting yourself. I say, let us know what you have to offer! What's that John Eldredge quote? "Be who you are and let the world deal with it!" I read that line but didn’t think it was inappropriate Corey.
I know we’ve all been to the grocery store where they are handing out samples of their products. By doing this they obviously want to give you an idea of what you get when you buy product X. This blog (IMHO) along with MOST of the blogs out there are like that. Corey, you give out samples of what can be offered on a much grander scale should someone choose to purchase your services. I love that. If I am going to spend the money on marriage coaching or therapy, it’s great to already know your philosophy by reading your blog. If I am not in need of coaching or therapy, then I still benefit by all the wonderful information you give out for free here on your blog.

I’m not sure people realize that you hold a PhD in marriage and family therapy. Most Phd’s wouldn’t give out any information without an appointment costing 100+ dollars for a 50 minute hour. You give freely here and make a difference for people who are regular readers of SM. It is their choice as to whether or not they take it a step further and hire you to take their marriage to the next level. I truly believe that if you didn’t promote yourself, people wouldn’t realize all that you can do for them. They wouldn’t know the tremendous resource that you are. Don’t apologize for promoting yourself. I say, let us know what you have to offer! What’s that John Eldredge quote? “Be who you are and let the world deal with it!”

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/do-you-want-your-marriage-to-survive-or-thrive.html#comment-4384 Corey Wed, 12 Aug 2009 18:56:42 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=2608#comment-4384 To be fair- after this was posted I did go back and remove a line from the end of the post (it asked who else was interested in joining me on an adventure to more in life and then asked for comments or to send me an email). This could have been read as a request for my services so I took it out after the initial comment because I don't want it to come across as I'm selling something other than the idea that there's more in marriage and life. To be fair- after this was posted I did go back and remove a line from the end of the post (it asked who else was interested in joining me on an adventure to more in life and then asked for comments or to send me an email). This could have been read as a request for my services so I took it out after the initial comment because I don’t want it to come across as I’m selling something other than the idea that there’s more in marriage and life.

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