Comments on: Fear or fully alive? http://www.simplemarriage.net/fear-or-fully-alive.html Keep it simple. Make it better. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 21:01:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Am I Committed to Marriage or Will I Be Committed? | The Simple Marriage Project http://www.simplemarriage.net/fear-or-fully-alive.html#comment-113 Am I Committed to Marriage or Will I Be Committed? | The Simple Marriage Project Tue, 19 Feb 2008 16:08:03 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/fear-or-fully-alive.html#comment-113 [...] impose on life. But do these limitations mean you no longer live life? No. You can incorporate your dreams into your marriage or your marriage into your dreams. As you read the rest of this post, keep this in mind: [...] [...] impose on life. But do these limitations mean you no longer live life? No. You can incorporate your dreams into your marriage or your marriage into your dreams. As you read the rest of this post, keep this in mind: [...]

]]> By: Stawberry Lover http://www.simplemarriage.net/fear-or-fully-alive.html#comment-46 Stawberry Lover Mon, 31 Dec 2007 15:28:51 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/fear-or-fully-alive.html#comment-46 I came across a quote from Larry Crabb, "Those who hold on to the illusion of control lose the enjoyment of freedom." I thought this was something to ponder. How do you see it meshing with your idea of living life fully alive? You seem to have intent with designing life. How does this idea fit in? Or does it? Happy New Year! I came across a quote from Larry Crabb,

“Those who hold on to the illusion of control lose the enjoyment of freedom.”

I thought this was something to ponder. How do you see it meshing with your idea of living life fully alive? You seem to have intent with designing life. How does this idea fit in? Or does it? Happy New Year!

]]> By: Blogging Fully Alive » Blog Archive » Fear or fully alive? http://www.simplemarriage.net/fear-or-fully-alive.html#comment-45 Blogging Fully Alive » Blog Archive » Fear or fully alive? Tue, 30 Oct 2007 04:44:30 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/fear-or-fully-alive.html#comment-45 [...] more in liferead more | digg [...] [...] more in liferead more | digg [...]

]]> By: Stawberry Lover http://www.simplemarriage.net/fear-or-fully-alive.html#comment-44 Stawberry Lover Sat, 27 Oct 2007 17:11:33 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/fear-or-fully-alive.html#comment-44 My biggest fear………..being abandoned. Ok I named it. Poof…Did it go away? No. Hum….so people would choose divorce over change. Interesting. I think I settled for other things over divorce because of my biggest fear. I chose some good times but I also chose a lot of not so good times. It seemed the risk of changing was very great. Now I am attempting the changed. It’s still risky. You have to hear things that you don’t want to hear and feel pain you don’t want to feel. You want to duck and hide. I try not to but then I get hit with the reality of who I am and what life is and I just want to go cry and hide in my bed. I get hit with the understanding that I am really alone in the world. I got hit with a big brick yesterday. I didn’t see it coming and I’m not over it yet. I took a risk and got hit. Now I’m stuck. I guess it is a part of the risk I take so I can change and grow. Life is so risky. A mine field. Very scary. So my choice is not whether to divorce, settle, or change. I feel like my choice is really pain here or pain there. Right now I am choosing pain there hoping that in the long run, change will be good even though painful and risky, and I will be more fully alive in the end. Time will tell. Maybe the force will be with me. Who knows. My biggest fear………..being abandoned. Ok I named it. Poof…Did it go away? No.

Hum….so people would choose divorce over change. Interesting. I think I settled for other things over divorce because of my biggest fear. I chose some good times but I also chose a lot of not so good times. It seemed the risk of changing was very great. Now I am attempting the changed. It’s still risky. You have to hear things that you don’t want to hear and feel pain you don’t want to feel. You want to duck and hide. I try not to but then I get hit with the reality of who I am and what life is and I just want to go cry and hide in my bed. I get hit with the understanding that I am really alone in the world. I got hit with a big brick yesterday. I didn’t see it coming and I’m not over it yet. I took a risk and got hit. Now I’m stuck. I guess it is a part of the risk I take so I can change and grow. Life is so risky. A mine field. Very scary.

So my choice is not whether to divorce, settle, or change. I feel like my choice is really pain here or pain there. Right now I am choosing pain there hoping that in the long run, change will be good even though painful and risky, and I will be more fully alive in the end. Time will tell. Maybe the force will be with me. Who knows.

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