Comments on: Free Marriage Coaching, an Idea and a Rant

By: Dustin | Engaged Marriage

Dustin | Engaged Marriage — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 03:41:57 +0000

I just wanted to respond to your strong words about being proactive to take your marriage to the next level. You are preaching to the choir here. I can only say:

AMEN!

By: Alifiyah

Alifiyah — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 17:40:20 +0000

would love to participate in a free 90-minute teleclass!! please do it!

By: Susan

Susan — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 15:41:28 +0000

I am very interested! I think it’s a great idea.

By: Gretchen Sullivan

Gretchen Sullivan — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 15:41:16 +0000

Corey, I would definitely be interested in a teleclass. Many thanks.

By: Crispy

Crispy — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 15:34:04 +0000

People tend to discount “free” stuff, which is unfortunate. If they haven’t paid money for it, they don’t see any inherent value in it!

The old adage “a stitch in time saves nine” is so true for relationships of any sort. It costs much less in the long run to take care of the little things before they turn into big things. My wife and I run up against people constantly who think that if we are in coaching sessions of some sort then we must REALLY be in trouble. Conversely, we also see many couples who really are stuck in a rut but maintain that “this is just how things are after so many years of marriage”. There seems to be a real stigma in this society about seeking help, despite the fact that the self-help industry is a $12-billion a year business. I’m getting frustrated just writing this, I can imagine how Corey feels as a provider of these services!

I think the teleclass idea is a great one, and perhaps a little less intimidating for most people than a face-to-face session. I’d be up for it.

By: Laurie

Laurie — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 14:29:51 +0000

Who are the best athletes out there? Maybe the Olympic athletes? When watching these athletes compete at the Olympics, no matter what country they are from, I always see them with a coach. Why? Aren’t they the best there is? Yes they are the best but even the best can make improvements. Even the best can’t see how every part of their performance effects the whole. Even an expert needs the perspective a coach gives them.

The same is true with marriage. No matter how great your marriage is, a coach will show you things in your relationship that may be holding you back from being all it can be, from being fully alive. A coach can take you to a level that you may not even know existed. A coach offers you Godiva chocolate when all you knew was Hershey’s.

The teleclass is an awesome idea Corey. It will give couple a taste of what coaching is all about. I hope tons of couples will make that step toward Godiva and participate in the call. I know, I plan on being there if at all possible. Might I suggest that you record the class in the event that some would like to participate but may have a time conflict?

The road to living fully alive is made one step at a time. But you DO have to take the first step. Maybe for your readers, this will be the first step!

By: Valerie Hill

Valerie Hill — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 14:29:41 +0000

So we have a one-in-36 chance….. I’m optimistic

I think the teleseminar is a great idea! It might be a good place to start for the husbands (or wives, I suppose) who feel like doing “real” counseling/coaching is a personal attack on them.

As for creating a “fully-alive” marriage before it’s completely dead…. In my marriage experience, I’ve found that my husband usually views things with an “If it’s not broken, why fix it?” approach. I guess he doesn’t see that there’s an area to be improved upon until I am about to have a mental meltdown. I hope that your philosophies and suggestions prove to him that just because we’re not “broken” doesn’t mean we can’t be better!
It would be like Toyota never improving on or upgrading the Corolla and expecting it to continue being the best selling car of all time!!!!!

By: Susan

Susan — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 14:05:36 +0000

I love when I open my inbox and there is a new post! This one is a good one for sure and one I wholeheartedly agree with. It is funny, I was one who originally responded to your free coaching offer and then when you needed us to respond with further specific ideas I decided that there were others that probably could use the FREE help more, as there really wasn’t a huge “crisis” going on in our marriage. Yes, there is always the communication breakdown that occurs here and there, but really nothing that was desperate. Since we have been married only 2 years and this is a second marriage for us, we certainly have a different appreciation and perspective to what we would like to see this time around – and BTW the only time around now till death do us part!
You make such a key point for couples to work on their marriage in the same way that they might put effort to something else. If you’re not willing to put in the time and effort that is what you will end up with – not much of anything.
We would love to participate in the teleclass – a great idea!

By: Amory

Amory — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 13:23:24 +0000

We absolutely agree with tackling issues before they are issues. I never want to be one of those couples that wakes up one day and the only option is to go our separate ways. What a waste!! We’re in this for the long haul and want to make it the best it can be!!

We’d be interested in the 90min teleclass.

By: Crystal

Crystal — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 13:12:13 +0000

Hi, we would be interested in a free 90 minute teleclass. It would give us a great idea of what your sessions would be like and it would be convenient for us with a 1 year old. Thank you very much for your offer.