Comments on: Goals And Dreams Are Means, Not Just Ends http://www.simplemarriage.net/goals-and-dreams-are-means-not-just-ends.html Keep it simple. Make it better. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 21:40:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Laurie http://www.simplemarriage.net/goals-and-dreams-are-means-not-just-ends.html#comment-4227 Laurie Fri, 31 Jul 2009 13:37:31 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=2430#comment-4227 I can attest to your statement Corey. Not only discomfort, but a feeling of awkwardness and off-balance. I can see why some people who can't persevere hang where they are but if they just endure the hell of the crucible, they come out more refined! It was the best thing I ever did. Now I approach growth with less tension knowing the results will make all the difference. I can attest to your statement Corey. Not only discomfort, but a feeling of awkwardness and off-balance. I can see why some people who can’t persevere hang where they are but if they just endure the hell of the crucible, they come out more refined! It was the best thing I ever did. Now I approach growth with less tension knowing the results will make all the difference.

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/goals-and-dreams-are-means-not-just-ends.html#comment-4226 Corey Fri, 31 Jul 2009 13:16:19 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=2430#comment-4226 I don't know if it's good or bad that in order to increase happiness, or most anything in life, you have to be willing to tolerate discomfort in order to grow. It's kind of counter-intuitive, leaning into discomfort in order to grow rather than turning away in order to make the discomfort go away. I don’t know if it’s good or bad that in order to increase happiness, or most anything in life, you have to be willing to tolerate discomfort in order to grow. It’s kind of counter-intuitive, leaning into discomfort in order to grow rather than turning away in order to make the discomfort go away.

]]> By: Bakari http://www.simplemarriage.net/goals-and-dreams-are-means-not-just-ends.html#comment-4215 Bakari Thu, 30 Jul 2009 15:20:11 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=2430#comment-4215 Yes, the day to day activity is where happiness is gained or lost. I prefer lifestyles over an ending to a quest. I know psychologist Martin Seligman also discusses the idea that once you reach the level of "barely comfortable" happiness levels do not increase much no matter how much wealth you acquire. Yes, the day to day activity is where happiness is gained or lost. I prefer lifestyles over an ending to a quest. I know psychologist Martin Seligman also discusses the idea that once you reach the level of “barely comfortable” happiness levels do not increase much no matter how much wealth you acquire.

]]> By: Lisis http://www.simplemarriage.net/goals-and-dreams-are-means-not-just-ends.html#comment-4213 Lisis Thu, 30 Jul 2009 13:32:09 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=2430#comment-4213 Hey, Corey! For the most part, I agree. We've certainly done our share of moving around and changing circumstances, and generally keep the same level of contentment. The one exception, at least in our case, has been when my husband is "stuck" in corporate jobs. Although they are great for some people, they drained the life and soul out of him and he felt like he was wasting his life. This, in turn, was no good for our marriage or family life. Now we are free of that, with no idea what our final destination will be or how the pieces will come together. So I love the story you shared about the monks being focused on the journey, rather than the destination. That's EXACTLY what we are doing now. Thanks! Hey, Corey! For the most part, I agree. We’ve certainly done our share of moving around and changing circumstances, and generally keep the same level of contentment. The one exception, at least in our case, has been when my husband is “stuck” in corporate jobs. Although they are great for some people, they drained the life and soul out of him and he felt like he was wasting his life. This, in turn, was no good for our marriage or family life.

Now we are free of that, with no idea what our final destination will be or how the pieces will come together. So I love the story you shared about the monks being focused on the journey, rather than the destination. That’s EXACTLY what we are doing now.

Thanks!

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/goals-and-dreams-are-means-not-just-ends.html#comment-4210 Corey Thu, 30 Jul 2009 01:36:21 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=2430#comment-4210 I went skydiving in college. It's great! Enjoy. I went skydiving in college. It’s great! Enjoy.

]]> By: Laurie http://www.simplemarriage.net/goals-and-dreams-are-means-not-just-ends.html#comment-4208 Laurie Wed, 29 Jul 2009 22:39:43 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=2430#comment-4208 I do want to end up living in a log cabin at a certain lake but I am not waiting to live until I get there. Between now and then, I want to have many adventures and experiences along the way. I am working on my business which is fun and exciting and also on my creative side. Next April is a big birthday for me....I am going to sky dive to celebrate it with enthusiasm and excitement! Won't you join me Corey? It would be a blast! I do want to end up living in a log cabin at a certain lake but I am not waiting to live until I get there. Between now and then, I want to have many adventures and experiences along the way. I am working on my business which is fun and exciting and also on my creative side. Next April is a big birthday for me….I am going to sky dive to celebrate it with enthusiasm and excitement! Won’t you join me Corey? It would be a blast!

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