Comments on: How To Choose A Shrink: Part 2 http://www.simplemarriage.net/how-to-choose-a-shrink-part-2.html A better marriage by keeping it simple. Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:53:12 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Marriage Help, When Your Spouse Isn't Interested | The Simple Marriage Project http://www.simplemarriage.net/how-to-choose-a-shrink-part-2.html#comment-1292 Marriage Help, When Your Spouse Isn't Interested | The Simple Marriage Project Wed, 13 Aug 2008 15:46:38 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=215#comment-1292 [...] Just because your spouse appears uninterested in working on the marriage does not mean you can’t work on yourself and your marriage. If you have some things you’d like to improve in life, go for it. For some assistance in getting this process started, check out this handy guide (part 1, part 2). [...] [...] Just because your spouse appears uninterested in working on the marriage does not mean you can’t work on yourself and your marriage. If you have some things you’d like to improve in life, go for it. For some assistance in getting this process started, check out this handy guide (part 1, part 2). [...]

]]> By: Alyssa http://www.simplemarriage.net/how-to-choose-a-shrink-part-2.html#comment-1288 Alyssa Tue, 12 Aug 2008 23:29:32 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=215#comment-1288 Personally, I think, 'Who cares about stigma? Save your marriage!' I've benefited so much from counseling, my husband is going now and we've gone together. I lucked into my best counselor by calling around, expressing my desperation and finding the soonest appointment. I, too, could tell quickly if it was going to "work" or not. The only advice I have is to figure out if you could talk to a man or woman more easily. If you truly don't believe a man can understand you, it won't do you any good to work with him (not saying he can't, but based on what you believe). Great blog! Thanks. Personally, I think, ‘Who cares about stigma? Save your marriage!’ I’ve benefited so much from counseling, my husband is going now and we’ve gone together. I lucked into my best counselor by calling around, expressing my desperation and finding the soonest appointment. I, too, could tell quickly if it was going to “work” or not. The only advice I have is to figure out if you could talk to a man or woman more easily. If you truly don’t believe a man can understand you, it won’t do you any good to work with him (not saying he can’t, but based on what you believe).

Great blog! Thanks.

]]> By: Laurie http://www.simplemarriage.net/how-to-choose-a-shrink-part-2.html#comment-1197 Laurie Tue, 29 Jul 2008 21:38:16 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=215#comment-1197 I have a difficult time calling it quits. I have shared the deepest part of me and opened up my closet to then close it back up and walk away. In therapy I am challenged and listened to. It is extremely safe and I connect hard. It is difficult to cut it off and accept that the connection was temporary. It's difficult to not have that place anymore. I have a difficult time calling it quits. I have shared the deepest part of me and opened up my closet to then close it back up and walk away. In therapy I am challenged and listened to. It is extremely safe and I connect hard. It is difficult to cut it off and accept that the connection was temporary. It’s difficult to not have that place anymore.

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/how-to-choose-a-shrink-part-2.html#comment-1188 Corey Mon, 28 Jul 2008 14:41:38 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=215#comment-1188 @ Hayden- So true. There are far too many times when marriage counseling becomes 2 against one, with the therapist aligning with one of the clients. This causes a great deal of damage. @Trish- The only reason to put up with bad return call rates would be if the therapist was highly recommended by other people you trusted. Even then however it would be tough to put up with. @ Hayden- So true. There are far too many times when marriage counseling becomes 2 against one, with the therapist aligning with one of the clients. This causes a great deal of damage.

@Trish- The only reason to put up with bad return call rates would be if the therapist was highly recommended by other people you trusted. Even then however it would be tough to put up with.

]]> By: Hayden Tompkins http://www.simplemarriage.net/how-to-choose-a-shrink-part-2.html#comment-1186 Hayden Tompkins Mon, 28 Jul 2008 14:15:22 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=215#comment-1186 One thing is that some marriage counselors are 'pro-wife'. Their focus becomes on how the husband is 'messing up' without an objective or non-biased opinion of the dynbamic of a relationship. The guys I know who have tried counseling and disliked it, had that experience and - unfortunately - will never try it again. One thing is that some marriage counselors are ‘pro-wife’. Their focus becomes on how the husband is ‘messing up’ without an objective or non-biased opinion of the dynbamic of a relationship. The guys I know who have tried counseling and disliked it, had that experience and – unfortunately – will never try it again.

]]> By: Trish http://www.simplemarriage.net/how-to-choose-a-shrink-part-2.html#comment-1184 Trish Mon, 28 Jul 2008 12:38:27 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=215#comment-1184 I wholehearted agree that it's about the connection. In my experience, I knew in the first session whether things were clicking or not. Regarding messages not being returned... I experienced that once and it didn't get any better once I was a client. If you have other options, think about skipping the ones that don't call you back. I wholehearted agree that it’s about the connection. In my experience, I knew in the first session whether things were clicking or not.

Regarding messages not being returned… I experienced that once and it didn’t get any better once I was a client. If you have other options, think about skipping the ones that don’t call you back.

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