Comments on: How To Live Longer, Stay Healthier, Have More Money And Great Sex

By: Deborah

Deborah — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 02:07:51 +0000

Hooray! Another person who stands up for staying married and honoring the vows! (except in the case of severe abuse of course) I very recently started writing a column for examiner.com and am writing about marriage. I’m trying to support marriage as well. I love your article!

By: Randy

Randy — Sat, 24 Jul 2010 03:40:44 +0000

Laurie, Your comment inspires me. I am experiencing similar issues as you have in the past. I too am trying to work on myself. Sometimes it’s just so hard not to put pressure and expectations on your spouse. Working on it though.

By: Linmayu

Linmayu — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 16:33:03 +0000

Sometimes you have no choice but to give up on a marriage. Sometimes you’ve put your whole heart and soul into sticking things out, improving yourself, trying to make it work, but the other person has already made up their mind, is adamant, and leaves you with absolutely no choice. What then?

By: Bigcopjon

Bigcopjon — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 14:31:51 +0000

being married is like having a second job. both have to work at it, in order for the marriage to work. been married 43 to the same lady. respect is the name of the game in our marriage. once you have respect, everything else falls into place. we are still having fun together and always will. i found my love for life. i was fortunate. we vowed to be one person against the world, from our wedding day. it has worked for us. never let an arguement go unresolved overnight. it much worse the next morning.

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By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 16:45:36 +0000

Watching my sister go through her second divorce has reinforced to me how true your 4th point is. She had no kids from her second marriage, but she has 5 kids from this second marriage. It’s so sad to me to see how deeply this has impacted the kids. They are the happiest, sweetest kids I’ve met, yet they have so much hurt and anger and insecurity in them now that they’re not sure how to handle. I’m amazed at how well they do. But even more than that, it’s amazing how much unhappier my sister is. She was unhappy in her marriage for years, but it has increased ten-fold since her divorce. It’s hard for me to watch it all so helplessly!

By: Sherri-SereneJourney

Sherri-SereneJourney — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 11:21:52 +0000

Hi Corey,

2 quotes from your post that I love:
1. “Marriage is personal development bootcamp.”
2. “marriage is not about happiness… it’s about growing up” These are so true!

It disappoints me to hear the divorce stats are still that high and how marriage has become somewhat disposable in today’s society. “Sticking it out” is the best advice. I think if more people gave their relationship a fair shake the stats would improve dramatically. I know a few people, who when dating, say “when we get married things will be better” (in the sense that all their problems will disappear). I’ve always thought – I don’t know about better…certainly different but I’m not sure about better.

For me marriage has always been about love – sacrifice, showing appreciation, and open and honest communication. It’s nice to know we’ll also live longer, have more money, better sex and be happier. Lovely post!

By: Daphne @ Joyful Days

Daphne @ Joyful Days — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 05:01:22 +0000

Hi Corey,

This is a lovely post. You’ve sold me on marriage.

By: Laurie

Laurie — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 02:19:13 +0000

You’re right Corey, five years can make a huge difference. Five years ago I thought my marriage was not going to make it but we both stuck it out and worked really hard to figure it all out. Funny thing, after I stopped worrying so much about how he could change and really worked hard on myself (both as a wife and as an individual) and make some changes in me, things got better really pretty quickly. I took the focus off of “us” and put it on “me”. Now five years later, I feel really good about myself and really good about us as a married couple. Life has never been better (including the sex) and I look forward to what lies ahead for me and us together. I do have to give a TON of credit to a wonderful counselor who helped us out. So Thank you Corey. You are the BEST!

By: Writer Dad

Writer Dad — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 00:13:33 +0000

It’s amazing to me how many couples are willing to surrender so easily. Marriage can be hard, just like the rest of life, but more often than not it is worth working through any difficulty. Certainly more than the statistics would suggest.