Comments on: In Defense of Pretty OK http://www.simplemarriage.net/in-defense-of-pretty-okay.html Keep it simple. Make it better. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 21:01:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Monday Must-Reads » Will Blog for Shoes http://www.simplemarriage.net/in-defense-of-pretty-okay.html#comment-6036 Monday Must-Reads » Will Blog for Shoes Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:29:09 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3951#comment-6036 [...] She Said (On His Blog): In Defense of Pretty OK [...] [...] She Said (On His Blog): In Defense of Pretty OK [...]

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/in-defense-of-pretty-okay.html#comment-6034 Corey Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:45:09 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3951#comment-6034 It is true that going through the rough times together often sets the stage for something better (or great). Back before the rough spots in my marriage, I wouldn't have even been thinking about ok, pretty ok, or great - I had no idea what marriage could become, chalk it up to being young and dumb. It is true that going through the rough times together often sets the stage for something better (or great). Back before the rough spots in my marriage, I wouldn’t have even been thinking about ok, pretty ok, or great – I had no idea what marriage could become, chalk it up to being young and dumb.

]]> By: carolina http://www.simplemarriage.net/in-defense-of-pretty-okay.html#comment-6033 carolina Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:13:20 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3951#comment-6033 I also think you have to look at this from everyone's perspective.....Corey, didn't you hit a rough spot when you were in the ministry? Before that, things weren't AWESOME in your marriage like they are now. I also think you have to look at this from everyone’s perspective…..Corey, didn’t you hit a rough spot when you were in the ministry? Before that, things weren’t AWESOME in your marriage like they are now.

]]> By: sharongilo http://www.simplemarriage.net/in-defense-of-pretty-okay.html#comment-5998 sharongilo Fri, 29 Jan 2010 20:15:39 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3951#comment-5998 As a marriage therapist for many years, I would concur with "pretty ok" being part of a long and successful marriage. There is an ebb and flow of levels of happiness in any relationship. For a little inspiration and motivation, however, to keep in mind how to make your marriage the best it can be, have at hand "A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage" (Boston Globe #1 pick) -- find at borders, amazon, etc. --- come by and visit @ www.ashortguidetoahappymarriage.com As a marriage therapist for many years, I would concur with “pretty ok” being part of a long and successful marriage. There is an ebb and flow of levels of happiness in any relationship. For a little inspiration and motivation, however, to keep in mind how to make your marriage the best it can be, have at hand “A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage” (Boston Globe #1 pick) — find at borders, amazon, etc. — come by and visit @ http://www.ashortguidetoahappymarriage.com

]]> By: Jenni @ My Web of Life http://www.simplemarriage.net/in-defense-of-pretty-okay.html#comment-5991 Jenni @ My Web of Life Fri, 29 Jan 2010 15:16:11 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3951#comment-5991 What fun posts to read! Thanks for letting me know that 'pretty ok' is ok. It is a relief to step away from the concept that my marriage is below par. I have been married for 10 years and there are times when it is absolutely abysmal. Then there are the times that are phenomenal. I figure it all averages down to pretty ok. I will always strive for better, but will stop beating myself up for not meeting some hypothetical bar. Thanks again! What fun posts to read! Thanks for letting me know that ‘pretty ok’ is ok. It is a relief to step away from the concept that my marriage is below par. I have been married for 10 years and there are times when it is absolutely abysmal. Then there are the times that are phenomenal. I figure it all averages down to pretty ok. I will always strive for better, but will stop beating myself up for not meeting some hypothetical bar.

Thanks again!

]]> By: kari http://www.simplemarriage.net/in-defense-of-pretty-okay.html#comment-5985 kari Fri, 29 Jan 2010 01:44:01 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3951#comment-5985 as someone contemplating marriage, and cognizant of a high rate of divorce among my peers, i'm glad to find out there's a portion of the blogosphere devoted to this topic. thank you! as someone contemplating marriage, and cognizant of a high rate of divorce among my peers, i’m glad to find out there’s a portion of the blogosphere devoted to this topic. thank you!

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/in-defense-of-pretty-okay.html#comment-5984 Corey Fri, 29 Jan 2010 01:16:18 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3951#comment-5984 A Hall of Fame marriage!!! You may have just created a new description. Thanks MJ. A Hall of Fame marriage!!!

You may have just created a new description.

Thanks MJ.

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/in-defense-of-pretty-okay.html#comment-5983 Corey Fri, 29 Jan 2010 01:14:33 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3951#comment-5983 "We stumble, we struggle, we re-pattern, we triumph but rarely in that order." Great sentence about this process. Thanks. “We stumble, we struggle, we re-pattern, we triumph but rarely in that order.”

Great sentence about this process. Thanks.

]]> By: Christine http://www.simplemarriage.net/in-defense-of-pretty-okay.html#comment-5981 Christine Thu, 28 Jan 2010 23:38:27 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3951#comment-5981 First time commenting, thanks for swapping posts. The debate style really helps to bring new insights to generalizations and abstractions, thanks! The struggle I have with all the "be awesome" or "accept ok" talk is that often times those discussions are framed in very linear ways, and humans do not growth in neat, linear ways. We stumble, we struggle, we re-pattern, we triumph but rarely in that order. I think the balancing point between striving for better and accepting satisfactory is keeping perspective on what your current stage "means" as Corey said. First time commenting, thanks for swapping posts. The debate style really helps to bring new insights to generalizations and abstractions, thanks! The struggle I have with all the “be awesome” or “accept ok” talk is that often times those discussions are framed in very linear ways, and humans do not growth in neat, linear ways. We stumble, we struggle, we re-pattern, we triumph but rarely in that order. I think the balancing point between striving for better and accepting satisfactory is keeping perspective on what your current stage “means” as Corey said.

]]> By: Stu @themarryblogger http://www.simplemarriage.net/in-defense-of-pretty-okay.html#comment-5980 Stu @themarryblogger Thu, 28 Jan 2010 20:28:29 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3951#comment-5980 What an awesome post - and very cool that you guys swapped posts for today. As much as I want to strive for a Stupendous Marriage (my catch phrase of choice), I know that there are seasons for everything. There are going to be times when our marriage is rocking - and times when it is not. I want the rocking times to happen more often...and be satisfied when they are just ok. I like what turnitupmom said above - .333 batters can be hall of famers!!! I can keep trying to hit it out of the park, even though I know I am going to strike out alot!! What an awesome post – and very cool that you guys swapped posts for today.

As much as I want to strive for a Stupendous Marriage (my catch phrase of choice), I know that there are seasons for everything. There are going to be times when our marriage is rocking – and times when it is not. I want the rocking times to happen more often…and be satisfied when they are just ok.

I like what turnitupmom said above – .333 batters can be hall of famers!!! I can keep trying to hit it out of the park, even though I know I am going to strike out alot!!

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