Comments on: Man Up: Power http://www.simplemarriage.net/man-up-power.html Keep it simple. Make it better. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 00:04:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Manlicious Manliness « Persistent Illusion http://www.simplemarriage.net/man-up-power.html#comment-604 Manlicious Manliness « Persistent Illusion Wed, 25 Jun 2008 13:57:17 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=111#comment-604 [...] SImpleMarriage, Corey writes a post on power.  We know power comes with great responsibility, but it also is more than strength of [...] [...] SImpleMarriage, Corey writes a post on power.  We know power comes with great responsibility, but it also is more than strength of [...]

]]> By: babbo http://www.simplemarriage.net/man-up-power.html#comment-600 babbo Tue, 24 Jun 2008 16:05:03 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=111#comment-600 "True power comes through submission." I couldn't agree more. It is an issue of letting go of the need to control. In trying to control, we become a tyrant. We become attached and rigid to a particular outcome. Once this need gets set aside, it's easier to give ourselves up to the Universe and our family. Problem is, when the kids are out of control and they're not listening there is a power struggle occurring that needs attention. Submission does not mean saying "whatever," and walking away. I think you've made that clear in your post. Acceptance of the situation is beneficial, but we've still got to deal with the kids and get the situation handled. What is easiest (and I beieve most harmful, long term) is to try and take the power away from the kids, telling them "stop it!" or "no!" I do it often. Sometimes it's necessary, but sometimes I do it out of habit. Not happy about that. My goal is to empower my kids. With true submission (or letting go of control) this is accomplished. I find it the best way to stay calm, level headed and loving. Peace, Joey www.daddybrain.wordpress.com “True power comes through submission.”

I couldn’t agree more. It is an issue of letting go of the need to control. In trying to control, we become a tyrant. We become attached and rigid to a particular outcome. Once this need gets set aside, it’s easier to give ourselves up to the Universe and our family.

Problem is, when the kids are out of control and they’re not listening there is a power struggle occurring that needs attention. Submission does not mean saying “whatever,” and walking away. I think you’ve made that clear in your post. Acceptance of the situation is beneficial, but we’ve still got to deal with the kids and get the situation handled. What is easiest (and I beieve most harmful, long term) is to try and take the power away from the kids, telling them “stop it!” or “no!” I do it often. Sometimes it’s necessary, but sometimes I do it out of habit. Not happy about that.

My goal is to empower my kids. With true submission (or letting go of control) this is accomplished. I find it the best way to stay calm, level headed and loving.

Peace,

Joey
http://www.daddybrain.wordpress.com

]]> By: cory at agoodhusband http://www.simplemarriage.net/man-up-power.html#comment-598 cory at agoodhusband Tue, 24 Jun 2008 13:45:07 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=111#comment-598 I wish more people were talking about this. I wish more men were talking about this kind of thing, specifically. This is an issue near and dear to my heart. There are so many boys out there with such crappy examples of fathers. I love it, Corey! I wish more people were talking about this. I wish more men were talking about this kind of thing, specifically. This is an issue near and dear to my heart. There are so many boys out there with such crappy examples of fathers. I love it, Corey!

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/man-up-power.html#comment-500 Corey Thu, 05 Jun 2008 13:43:08 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=111#comment-500 @ Laurie- The Dali Lama is another good example. As for the boy, I did tell him to cut it out, I don't think he got it though. @ Hayden- You are correct in standing for convictions is powerful. Too bad most of society seems to be unwilling to stand up enough. Too much going with the flow. @ Laurie- The Dali Lama is another good example. As for the boy, I did tell him to cut it out, I don’t think he got it though.

@ Hayden- You are correct in standing for convictions is powerful. Too bad most of society seems to be unwilling to stand up enough. Too much going with the flow.

]]> By: Hayden Tompkins http://www.simplemarriage.net/man-up-power.html#comment-499 Hayden Tompkins Thu, 05 Jun 2008 13:18:01 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=111#comment-499 I love how each of your examples features someone who is not aggressive, but that does not in any way diminish their power. Standing up for what's right and having the faith of your convictions is extremely powerful. I love how each of your examples features someone who is not aggressive, but that does not in any way diminish their power. Standing up for what’s right and having the faith of your convictions is extremely powerful.

]]> By: Laurie http://www.simplemarriage.net/man-up-power.html#comment-494 Laurie Thu, 05 Jun 2008 00:25:53 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=111#comment-494 Great post. I believe women thirst for a strong man like you have described here. One of the things that women worry about is being overpowered by a self centered man. Women cringe when they hear that they are supposed to submit to their husband. But if the husband were strong in the manner you have described, which would be biblical, there would be not hesitation for women in submitting. I want a strong leader. I think when women don't, they probably are insecure and need to control. Just my amateur thoughts. I would definitely place Jesus Christ as number one. I might also put the Dali Lama on the list. Sorry you boy got you up. No reason to complain though. Just tell him to cut it out! he he he Great post. I believe women thirst for a strong man like you have described here. One of the things that women worry about is being overpowered by a self centered man. Women cringe when they hear that they are supposed to submit to their husband. But if the husband were strong in the manner you have described, which would be biblical, there would be not hesitation for women in submitting. I want a strong leader. I think when women don’t, they probably are insecure and need to control. Just my amateur thoughts.

I would definitely place Jesus Christ as number one. I might also put the Dali Lama on the list.

Sorry you boy got you up. No reason to complain though. Just tell him to cut it out! he he he

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