Comments on: The Art of Marital Conversation http://www.simplemarriage.net/man-up-the-art-of-marital-conversation-2.html Keep it simple. Make it better. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 21:40:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: What Do I Do When My Spouse And I Aren’t On The Same Page? http://www.simplemarriage.net/man-up-the-art-of-marital-conversation-2.html#comment-4031 What Do I Do When My Spouse And I Aren’t On The Same Page? Fri, 10 Jul 2009 11:09:53 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=1268#comment-4031 [...] you want to change, and have a spouse that isn’t on the same page, it’s best to initiate a discussion about the change. Share your thoughts; openly listen to theirs. It’s likely that together, [...] [...] you want to change, and have a spouse that isn’t on the same page, it’s best to initiate a discussion about the change. Share your thoughts; openly listen to theirs. It’s likely that together, [...]

]]> By: A Marital Conversation Alternative: Take a Walk | Simple Marriage http://www.simplemarriage.net/man-up-the-art-of-marital-conversation-2.html#comment-2835 A Marital Conversation Alternative: Take a Walk | Simple Marriage Sat, 07 Mar 2009 14:06:32 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=1268#comment-2835 [...] the previous post we discussed The Art of Marital Conversation. After reading you and your spouse may have decided to have a face to face talk about one (or more) [...] [...] the previous post we discussed The Art of Marital Conversation. After reading you and your spouse may have decided to have a face to face talk about one (or more) [...]

]]> By: Hayden Tompkins http://www.simplemarriage.net/man-up-the-art-of-marital-conversation-2.html#comment-2768 Hayden Tompkins Wed, 25 Feb 2009 15:08:40 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=1268#comment-2768 One concept that has helped us IMMENSELY is the idea that if one partner has a problem, it's a problem. I've noticed that often a spouse will try and break down the 'problem' and insist that one does not exist. But it doesn't matter if a problem ACTUALLY exists because the partner's BELIEF that a problem exists means that one does. Chris used to have a problem with me 'making fun of him'. Now, for the record, I have NEVER made fun of my husband. But since he felt there was a problem, there was a problem and I adjusted my behavior accordingly. If you try to force the 'reality' that there is no problem (like I did at first), the other person will merely resist you and feel like you don't support them. P.S. LOVE this article. One concept that has helped us IMMENSELY is the idea that if one partner has a problem, it’s a problem.

I’ve noticed that often a spouse will try and break down the ‘problem’ and insist that one does not exist. But it doesn’t matter if a problem ACTUALLY exists because the partner’s BELIEF that a problem exists means that one does.

Chris used to have a problem with me ‘making fun of him’. Now, for the record, I have NEVER made fun of my husband. But since he felt there was a problem, there was a problem and I adjusted my behavior accordingly.

If you try to force the ‘reality’ that there is no problem (like I did at first), the other person will merely resist you and feel like you don’t support them.

P.S. LOVE this article.

]]> By: Moriah http://www.simplemarriage.net/man-up-the-art-of-marital-conversation-2.html#comment-2766 Moriah Wed, 25 Feb 2009 07:25:57 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=1268#comment-2766 I know that this is a rewrite from a previous posting but it was perfect timing! It's always good to refresh ourselves on these ideas and I really agree with the fact that most of the time communication in a marriage is to connect or to distance ourselves. I'd have to say that most of the time, for me, it's to connect. I know that this is a rewrite from a previous posting but it was perfect timing! It’s always good to refresh ourselves on these ideas and I really agree with the fact that most of the time communication in a marriage is to connect or to distance ourselves. I’d have to say that most of the time, for me, it’s to connect.

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