Comments on: Please Pass the Manners http://www.simplemarriage.net/please-pass-the-manners.html Keep it simple. Make it better. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 21:01:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Ms Summer http://www.simplemarriage.net/please-pass-the-manners.html#comment-7456 Ms Summer Sat, 08 May 2010 18:07:15 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=98#comment-7456 lol I might adopt that for a change, I bet the surprise in the person's face will brighten my day as well:) lol I might adopt that for a change, I bet the surprise in the person’s face will brighten my day as well:)

]]> By: Ms Summer http://www.simplemarriage.net/please-pass-the-manners.html#comment-7455 Ms Summer Sat, 08 May 2010 18:04:20 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=98#comment-7455 You are so right. I often noticed I felt extremely annoyed or frustrated after simply having gone out to the shops, and I could never really put my finger on why that was. It is the little things in people's behaviour that we might not even consciously see anymore in my generation (i'm 20)... I will definitely work on that one! Thank you for the wonderful post:) You are so right. I often noticed I felt extremely annoyed or frustrated after simply having gone out to the shops, and I could never really put my finger on why that was. It is the little things in people’s behaviour that we might not even consciously see anymore in my generation (i’m 20)… I will definitely work on that one! Thank you for the wonderful post:)

]]> By: Heather http://www.simplemarriage.net/please-pass-the-manners.html#comment-2769 Heather Wed, 25 Feb 2009 16:37:19 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=98#comment-2769 Sometimes my husband teases me for waving so enthusiastically to other drivers who perform kind gestures, but I figure in that situation it's better to be as obvious as possible about my thanks, especially as I can't give a verbal "thank-you." Sometimes my husband teases me for waving so enthusiastically to other drivers who perform kind gestures, but I figure in that situation it’s better to be as obvious as possible about my thanks, especially as I can’t give a verbal “thank-you.”

]]> By: Janet Parnes http://www.simplemarriage.net/please-pass-the-manners.html#comment-610 Janet Parnes Thu, 26 Jun 2008 14:20:35 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=98#comment-610 I am an etiquette consultant for children in Massachusetts and have programs at Park & Rec Dep'ts. I see my job, largely, as teaching young people skills that help develop the "gems" inside of them: qualities such as generosity, patience, consideration, etc. I think that practicing respectful manners highlights these qualities to make us shine and those around us happy. I like to highlighte the common sense aspects of specific manners and believe fact that treating people with respect and consideration is a way of letting them know they are important/we care. So, for me, there is a lot more to manners than mechanics. But, as you stated, one class is just the beginning. Parental will to nurture the best in their children is critical. I am an etiquette consultant for children in Massachusetts and have programs at Park & Rec Dep’ts. I see my job, largely, as teaching young people skills that help develop the “gems” inside of them: qualities such as generosity, patience, consideration, etc. I think that practicing respectful manners highlights these qualities to make us shine and those around us happy. I like to highlighte the common sense aspects of specific manners and believe fact that treating people with respect and consideration is a way of letting them know they are important/we care. So, for me, there is a lot more to manners than mechanics. But, as you stated, one class is just the beginning. Parental will to nurture the best in their children is critical.

]]> By: Laurie http://www.simplemarriage.net/please-pass-the-manners.html#comment-468 Laurie Sat, 31 May 2008 15:25:47 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=98#comment-468 As a teacher, we have to be so careful. We will discuss students during lunch. While having time to problem solve together is a rare thing, we have to be careful that parents are not around to overhear our conversations. Our classroom also don't have doors so to discuss students in there, can easily be overheard by other students if we are not careful. I have to watch myself on the cell phone as I tend to tune others out and forget I have an audience. I even need to do that at home with big eared teenage boys in the house. I usually go out in my back yard and sit on my porch swing to have those more private conversations. But then, I also need to make sure the neighbor isn't outside. As a teacher, we have to be so careful. We will discuss students during lunch. While having time to problem solve together is a rare thing, we have to be careful that parents are not around to overhear our conversations. Our classroom also don’t have doors so to discuss students in there, can easily be overheard by other students if we are not careful.

I have to watch myself on the cell phone as I tend to tune others out and forget I have an audience. I even need to do that at home with big eared teenage boys in the house. I usually go out in my back yard and sit on my porch swing to have those more private conversations. But then, I also need to make sure the neighbor isn’t outside.

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/please-pass-the-manners.html#comment-462 Corey Fri, 30 May 2008 20:33:32 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=98#comment-462 To add to the cell phone etiquette discussion. While at Panera (where I write most days) a lady sitting in the corner actually called someone to get a background check run on another person, presumably a client or something. Anyway, she proceeded to give out the person's SS#, address, phone number, full name, and few other details. Were I so inclined, I could have taken a vacation as another person this summer. Unbelievable! To add to the cell phone etiquette discussion. While at Panera (where I write most days) a lady sitting in the corner actually called someone to get a background check run on another person, presumably a client or something. Anyway, she proceeded to give out the person’s SS#, address, phone number, full name, and few other details. Were I so inclined, I could have taken a vacation as another person this summer. Unbelievable!

]]> By: Kathy Sena http://www.simplemarriage.net/please-pass-the-manners.html#comment-461 Kathy Sena Fri, 30 May 2008 17:15:59 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=98#comment-461 Laurie and Connie, thanks for your comments. I love the "act of service every day" idea, Laurie. And Connie, I hear you on the cell-phone-etiquette thing! The personal stuff I have heard from fellow shoppers at Target lately (about their divorce and their husband's cheating, their feminine-hygiene problems, how they hate their kid's teacher, etc.) simply amazes me. Don't they realize that other people can HEAR THEM? Kathy Laurie and Connie, thanks for your comments. I love the “act of service every day” idea, Laurie.

And Connie, I hear you on the cell-phone-etiquette thing! The personal stuff I have heard from fellow shoppers at Target lately (about their divorce and their husband’s cheating, their feminine-hygiene problems, how they hate their kid’s teacher, etc.) simply amazes me. Don’t they realize that other people can HEAR THEM?

Kathy

]]> By: Connie http://www.simplemarriage.net/please-pass-the-manners.html#comment-460 Connie Fri, 30 May 2008 15:49:18 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=98#comment-460 I am always amazed at the lack of consideration or the sense of entitlement people seem to have developed. I suspect people are so wrapped up in their own lives and being "busy" that the fine art of good manners and kindness is being lost and not being taught to a whole generation of children. Don't even get me started on cell phone etiquette!!!:) I am always amazed at the lack of consideration or the sense of entitlement people seem to have developed. I suspect people are so wrapped up in their own lives and being “busy” that the fine art of good manners and kindness is being lost and not being taught to a whole generation of children. Don’t even get me started on cell phone etiquette!!!:)

]]> By: Laurie http://www.simplemarriage.net/please-pass-the-manners.html#comment-451 Laurie Fri, 30 May 2008 02:28:56 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=98#comment-451 This sounds like a great intro for your idea to do an act of service for someone everyday challenge. I always made it a point for my kids to see me give back the extra money when checkers gave me too much or make sure they got the price right etc. I think many kids get to see their parents cheat and lie besides not being considerate of others. I've alway heard that values erode over time. I think maybe they're right. How does the common folk turn that around? This sounds like a great intro for your idea to do an act of service for someone everyday challenge.

I always made it a point for my kids to see me give back the extra money when checkers gave me too much or make sure they got the price right etc. I think many kids get to see their parents cheat and lie besides not being considerate of others. I’ve alway heard that values erode over time. I think maybe they’re right. How does the common folk turn that around?

]]> By: Kathy Sena http://www.simplemarriage.net/please-pass-the-manners.html#comment-449 Kathy Sena Fri, 30 May 2008 01:40:07 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=98#comment-449 Corey, I'm honored to have a guest post on your wonderful blog. Thanks for the invitation! Kathy Sena Parent Talk Today Corey, I’m honored to have a guest post on your wonderful blog. Thanks for the invitation!

Kathy Sena
Parent Talk Today

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