Blow Up My Marriage is as comprehensive as a college-level course in the marriage arts department. But in case you’re wondering, no university has a marriage arts department.
And … unlike many college courses, this isn’t abstract theory or fancy ideas that don’t work in the real world. This also isn’t a step-by-step road map for relationships, because there is no one size fits all relationship.
This class is about understanding the natural forces at play in every marriage (also every relationship) then helping you lean into the process of these relational dynamics and self-development in order to experience a marriage fully alive.
Module 1:
Both men and women tend to be equally bad at relationships, so the health of your relationship is in your hands.
- Marriage is designed to help you grow up.
- The relationship works on you, not the other way around.
- Stand on your own two feet.
Module 2:
Relationships are co-created, the state of your marriage is the result of both you and your spouse’s doing.
- The system is the issue, not your partner.
- Relationships mirror early childhood relationships.
- Healthy relationship involve two “grown ups”
- Two types of systemic change: First Order and Second Order
Module 3:
Are you a fighter, flighter, fixer or student of your marriage?
- The fighter vs. the fixer
- The battle between poser’s in relationship
- Attitude entering marriage
- Becoming the Authentic You
Module 4:
Leaning into the conflict and the energy it offers
- A story about growing up in relationship
- Masculinity and Femininity
- Using the energy conflict provides
Module 5:
How creating healthy boundaries actually helps you get closer than you ever imaged in marriage.
- Internal boundaries
- Personal boundaries
- Relationship boundaries
Module 6:
Gridlock is not just something that happens in traffic, it’s also a natural part of marriage and growing up.
- Gridlock in marriage
- Two choice dilemmas
- Compromise and holding onto yourself
Module 7:
How always leaning on your spouse is one of the best ways to ruin your marriage.
- Fused relationship and their problems
- The importance of healthy space
- Living a great story
Module 8:
How to revitalize or transform your sex life in simple ways.
- Men vs. women and their wiring
- Three rules for great sex
