Comments on: Simple Family: An Important Question http://www.simplemarriage.net/simple-family-an-important-question.html Keep it simple. Make it better. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 16:23:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Susan http://www.simplemarriage.net/simple-family-an-important-question.html#comment-5371 Susan Fri, 20 Nov 2009 00:32:22 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3142#comment-5371 Great question, I truly hope we are the "how to" versus the "how-not-to". At this point I would say we are doing a great job, admitting mistakes and always trying to improve and our kids see this. Something to always keep in mind though! Great question, I truly hope we are the “how to” versus the “how-not-to”. At this point I would say we are doing a great job, admitting mistakes and always trying to improve and our kids see this. Something to always keep in mind though!

]]> By: Tiffany http://www.simplemarriage.net/simple-family-an-important-question.html#comment-5369 Tiffany Thu, 19 Nov 2009 15:39:49 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3142#comment-5369 A good question... As children ourselves, we view my husband's parents marriage as the how-to (happily married 35+ years, still date and can't wait to see each other at the end of the day) while we view my parents marriage as the how-not-to (divorced at 8 yrs, then again at 20 yrs, fought constantly for the last 5 or so, slept in separate beds for the last 3, their "stayed together for the kids" was really "made the kids watch and suffer the unhappiness too"). We make a constant effort, every day and especially in the little things, to make our marriage a how-to by showing love, laughter, kindness and respect to one another. A good question… As children ourselves, we view my husband’s parents marriage as the how-to (happily married 35+ years, still date and can’t wait to see each other at the end of the day) while we view my parents marriage as the how-not-to (divorced at 8 yrs, then again at 20 yrs, fought constantly for the last 5 or so, slept in separate beds for the last 3, their “stayed together for the kids” was really “made the kids watch and suffer the unhappiness too”). We make a constant effort, every day and especially in the little things, to make our marriage a how-to by showing love, laughter, kindness and respect to one another.

]]> By: Ken http://www.simplemarriage.net/simple-family-an-important-question.html#comment-5368 Ken Thu, 19 Nov 2009 14:24:50 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3142#comment-5368 I hope they see our marriage as a how-to example. My kids have seen a lot of divorce and dysfunctional relationships in the lives of relatives and friends. My marriage is not perfect (no one's is), but we love each other, laugh whenever possible and always stick together. I often remind my wife that when we were married (18 years ago), no one gave us a chance. Now, we are one of the few marriages that has lasted. We started with nothing but love and now I couldn't put a price on the treasures we posses as a family. I hope they see our marriage as a how-to example. My kids have seen a lot of divorce and dysfunctional relationships in the lives of relatives and friends. My marriage is not perfect (no one’s is), but we love each other, laugh whenever possible and always stick together. I often remind my wife that when we were married (18 years ago), no one gave us a chance. Now, we are one of the few marriages that has lasted. We started with nothing but love and now I couldn’t put a price on the treasures we posses as a family.

]]> By: Matthew http://www.simplemarriage.net/simple-family-an-important-question.html#comment-5366 Matthew Thu, 19 Nov 2009 13:28:16 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3142#comment-5366 I had the advantage of seeing both sides in my parents marriage (I don't have any children of my own yet.) It was wonderful when I was small, and then during my teenage years I started seeing the how-not to lessons. I had the advantage of seeing both sides in my parents marriage (I don’t have any children of my own yet.) It was wonderful when I was small, and then during my teenage years I started seeing the how-not to lessons.

]]> By: Rana http://www.simplemarriage.net/simple-family-an-important-question.html#comment-5365 Rana Thu, 19 Nov 2009 13:24:30 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3142#comment-5365 I would have to say we are showing our kids a "how-to" . My husband and I both came from that same type of marriage. Both sets of parents have been great examples of how families should be and My husband and I are striving to give that same example to our kids. I would have to say we are showing our kids a “how-to” . My husband and I both came from that same type of marriage. Both sets of parents have been great examples of how families should be and My husband and I are striving to give that same example to our kids.

]]> By: Dustin | Engaged Marriage http://www.simplemarriage.net/simple-family-an-important-question.html#comment-5364 Dustin | Engaged Marriage Thu, 19 Nov 2009 02:16:58 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3142#comment-5364 I loved your post at ZFH and left a comment there a few days ago. One of my greatest goals/sources of pride is to be able to answer "Yes!" to the question of whether we are providing a good example of healthy marriage/relationships to our kids. They are only 4 and 2 years old right now, but so far I think we're doing pretty well on that front. I loved your post at ZFH and left a comment there a few days ago.

One of my greatest goals/sources of pride is to be able to answer “Yes!” to the question of whether we are providing a good example of healthy marriage/relationships to our kids. They are only 4 and 2 years old right now, but so far I think we’re doing pretty well on that front.

]]> By: may http://www.simplemarriage.net/simple-family-an-important-question.html#comment-5363 may Wed, 18 Nov 2009 23:47:46 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3142#comment-5363 My husband and I don't have children. Yet when I think back to when I was a child I DEFINATELY looked at my parents' marriage as a "how not to." An unintended, yet terrible example of a marriage dynamic. Examples taken from it, however, has impacted my own marriage and what my own 'dealbreakers' in a relationship have been. My husband and I don’t have children. Yet when I think back to when I was a child I DEFINATELY looked at my parents’ marriage as a “how not to.” An unintended, yet terrible example of a marriage dynamic. Examples taken from it, however, has impacted my own marriage and what my own ‘dealbreakers’ in a relationship have been.

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