The countdown to launch is on!
The marriage book I’ve written is fueling up and will be ready to go in a couple of weeks.
I’ll write more about the launch as the time approaches but right now I am offering 3 readers the chance to win a FREE copy of the book!
If you are one of the 3 lucky winners you’ll receive an electronic copy of A Simple Marriage before it’s even ready for release.
This book will give you and your spouse some tools to use in order to design the relationship and life you desire.
A Simple Marriage is not a relationship rescue book, it is written to help you take an ordinary relationship and make it extraordinary. To help a good marriage turn into a great marriage.
By working through this book you’ll discover ways to live more on purpose as well as prepare for the things that will get in the way of this type of marriage and life.
And to sweeten this giveaway I’m adding one more thing…
The 3 winners will each receive 2 free coaching sessions!
These sessions will be over the phone and can be used in conjunction with the book, thus helping you kick start the whole process as you create the relationship you and your spouse desire!
Here’s how to enter:
- Leave a comment on this post sharing any tips you’ve found that help you experience more in marriage and life.
- Email me at corey (at) simplemarriage (dot) net with the secret code in the email’s subject line (no need to write anything in the email’s body, as it won’t be read). To find the secret code, make sure you’ve subscribed to Simple Marriage either via RSS or via email, and look in the footer of the feed for this and all subsequent posts.
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The winners will be picked from each form of entry, so the more ways you enter, the more chances to win! To further increase your odds, be sure to have your spouse enter as well.
This giveaway ends next Friday, April 17 at midnight CST.
I’ve learned that in marriage and in life, my attitude is more important than my circumstances.
Tip: Make someone the boss. We have learned that a lot of our conflict comes because we both think that we are in charge of our current activity, chore, dinner plan, etc. If we take a couple seconds to clarify who is the boss, then we can move very smoothly and with much less conflict. For example: “Who is the boss of choosing where we go for dinner? I am? Ok, I’m thinking about tacos – sound good? Good.”
Communicate in all aspects of your marriage and never go to sleep angry!
Fight fair. Don’t bring up past fights or disagreements. Stick to the discussion at hand and talk it out calmly and rationally.
Communication is key. Also- love and respect each other at all times.
Communication, the more the better.
Learning that fighting is not a bad thing if done productively.
Keep communication open and don’t hold grudges
I’m not yet married, but I will be in August, and during our engagement, my fiance and I have discovered that a lot of the time, it’s not WHAT you say, but HOW you say it that matters. It’s like our premarital counselors said–the number one cause of divorce is not money or sex, but how you talk to each other while talking about money or sex.
Both look for ways to make life easier for the other person.
As a male I have found that I am the responsible one to leave behind the family of origin and lead the way in the new family.I asked my spouse to be my wife and not my mother, a whole lot easier in terms of the present and the dynamics that go with it.
Nothing shuts down a conversation faster than hurling accusations.
Respect for each other in all situations.
Take time out every single day to do something nice for each other. Say I love you and give encouragement!
I have learned that growing myself up and working on being the best me I can be is the best I can do for us as a couple. I have to complete myself and not look at the spouse to do it.
It generally is quite hard to hear the other person when you can’t seem to shut up, yourself.
always honour it. always protect it. always work at it. there are so many things that are against the institution of marriage– it’s a daily fight to love well.
Remembering to never assume that I don’t need to show my love. Always searching to remind him, to let him know I’m thinking of him provides a wonderful closeness.
Try to live the open portion of the serenity prayer.
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time.
i’ve only been married about a year and a half but what changed my outlook on our marriage completely was understanding that just because we fight does not mean our marriage will end. for us, fighting give us a way to blow off some tension. (not to mention incredible make-up sex) but we always have to remember to fight fair and be quick to apologize.
the best advice we’ve ever been given is to “out-serve” one another.
Be sure to work at clear, respectful communication. And always utilize the golden rule: treat your spouse the way you yourself would like to be treated (not the way you may have been treated in the past.)
I’ve learned that there are a lot of people out there who are Pro-Marriage and proud of it! It seems to me, as someone married only 5 months now, that there are so many more facets to being married than I had ever thought. Since both of us are changing all the time, so will the marriage, this means that there is constant room for improvement! Last but not least, to become the best spouse I can be, I need to work on myself to become more mature, kind and loving.
One of the best tools we use is simply communication. We learned early in our marriage, if we weren’t honest with each other over even the simplest things, it would fester and make a mountain out of a mole hill.
Laughter! It seems that nearly every night before we go to sleep my husband and I laugh about something we heard during the day or some absurdity that crossed our paths. We’ll be married 29 years next week. And we can still make each other laugh. I treasure this.
If we could all feel the way we do on our wedding day…Divorce would not exist! Now, bottle that and sell it!
D
Picking your battles! And fight with a no fault clause…it’s not about winning always!
communicate. need i say more?
One of the biggest things is to not jump to conclusions and become defensive.
Understand that at times you are both going to act like a-holes. deal with it, it is not The End and it will pass, and you get to apologize afterward when it’s your turn to be less than your perfect self.
communicate and reconnect with each other when starting to feel distant.
My tip is to always assume the best about the other person, even if you don’t understand why hes/she’s doing what he/she’s doing. Another tip is that when things are really tough, find a way to serve the other person: iron their shirts, pack their lunch, fill their car with gas, etc. One final tip: ask for what you want. If I want flowers, I ask for flowers. If I want the kitchen cleaned, I ask him to clean the kitchen. Oh, and along with that, always be polite. Saying “Please” goes a long way.
My tip is to praise your partner when you see behavior you like. We do this a lot with children, but it works with everyone.
My biggest tip – start talking and keep talking. Communication is your biggest and best tool to stay connected with your spouse.
You have to remember that your marriage is something that you have to work at; it needs maintenance, just like your car.
Thank you for a great giveaway. I would love to win. I have learned that never go to bed angry. Always talk it out and never name call. THank you
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A statement that has become almost a mantra for us: you receive what you perceive. (E.g. if you perceive your spouse is mad at you, even innocent comments and questions sound like they’re said in anger.) Remembering this helps us work on taking a step back and defining our perspective and making necessary adjustments.
Married 13 years (together since we were 14 and 17)… took a long time to learn –
1) RESPECT. Without it, you’re doomed.
2) Utilize each person’s strengths, and compensate for each other’s weaknesses. I don’t try to fix the cars, and he doesn’t try to cook dinner.
3) Clarify. What you thought you heard may be miles away from what was actually meant.
Don’t be in a hurry to get mad. When you find yourself beginning to get upset, try to remember at least one thing that the other person did that made you happy. None of us are perfect although that is easy to forget when an disagreement starts to heat up.