It’s been a while since we’ve had a podcast here on Simple Marriage, so it high time we offer another up. Here it is.
Today, you won’t have to sit and listen to just me. Instead you will be treated to an interview I had with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo of One Extraordinary Marriage.
Ever wondered what it would be like to have sex every day for 60 days?
Wonder what an experience like this would teach you about yourself and your marriage?
In this episode you’ll hear about their experience. What they learned, how it challenged them and the impact this experiment had on their marriage today.
It’s a great episode and I think you’ll enjoy it.
As always I welcome your thoughts and comments.
Enjoy.
One year, my wife gave me a book called “Just Do It” where a wife gives her husband a birthday present of sex every day for 100 days (well, 101 since they added a “bonus day”). The book was actually quite interesting and while it had juicy bits, I wouldn’t call it X-Rated. More like PG-13. R at most. The sex (for the most part) was mentioned as having happened, but few details are given. Of course, imagine my disappointment when my wife told me that the gift wasn’t her way of initiating a 100 day challenge with me.
Could have been worse… there was one couple that did it every day for a year!
We might need to try this- 30 days might be a good start. We have the extra challenge (on top of having 2 kids not in school yet) of my husband working shifts (7 am-5 pm and 5 pm to 4 am being the extremes). This would be a challenge, but I’m pretty sure my husband would be up for it.
So to speak.
Mrs Embers – A 30 day challenge would be just as amazing and fulfilling as the 60 days Alisa and I did. It’s not the time, but the commitment the two of you make to each other. Six months after doing our 60 Days of Sex we did a 7 day challenge that was rewarding and new in a different way.
Having 2 kids at home does make it interesting, we have 2 as well, but I can remember a couple of times taking them over to the sitters so that Alisa and I could have some alone time.
Please let us know how it goes.
~Tony
Any chance you could convince my wife that a 30 day challenge is a good idea?
She even balked when I said we should start small – at 2 weeks – and then work our way up. I guess it seems different when a wife suggests it than when a husband suggests it.
TechyDad – Alisa’s first reaction to me was a solid “NO”. It took her a day to come around to the idea and even once she said “YES” we needed to work out some details for her to be completely on board.
A suggestion I have is to have a reason for doing this. What is it you two can learn from this experience? Pick up a book that the two of you read each night and then discuss. The Love Everyday ebook, http://www.scribd.com/doc/26484217/Love-Every-Day, could be used in this way.
As a husband who never thought this would ever happen in my marriage I would continue to open up dialog with your wife. It might not happen this week or this month, but maybe with time the two of you could do a challenge of your own.
Hope this helps.
~Tony
I think God gave women periods for a reason… so they didn’t have to have a 30 day challenge!
Noelle – I will have to say that I was happy when Alisa had her period that first month. This is what my journal entry reads after Alisa told me she started her period.
“Alisa just told me that she started her period. We’re off for a bit. A needed break to say the least & it comes at a good time. I’m so excited not to have SEX for a few days.”
God gave women a period for a reason and I was sure glad he did.
Thanks for your comment.
~Tony