Comments on: Thanks to the Love of my Wife http://www.simplemarriage.net/thanks-to-the-love-of-my-wife-2.html Keep it simple. Make it better. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 21:01:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Pam http://www.simplemarriage.net/thanks-to-the-love-of-my-wife-2.html#comment-5633 Pam Wed, 23 Dec 2009 02:04:57 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3411#comment-5633 Ohio, I'm Pam (Corey's wife). "Recovery" took a while. I spent some time with a counselor, both individually and with Corey. It was helpful at a minimum to have an objective (highly qualified) third party to go over things with. I didn't try to force the recovery, just went with the flow and addressed the feelings/issues as they arose. Eventually I figured out what the triggers were that set off the anger you referenced and learned to deal with it in a healthy way.<br><br>Through it all, I learned more about myself and stood up for myself like never before. I think that was more attractive to Corey and helped create more of a relationship that he wanted to fight for as well. <br><br>Trust can be reestablished. A deeper strength and love can come as well. Hang in there. Ohio, I'm Pam (Corey's wife). “Recovery” took a while. I spent some time with a counselor, both individually and with Corey. It was helpful at a minimum to have an objective (highly qualified) third party to go over things with. I didn't try to force the recovery, just went with the flow and addressed the feelings/issues as they arose. Eventually I figured out what the triggers were that set off the anger you referenced and learned to deal with it in a healthy way.

Through it all, I learned more about myself and stood up for myself like never before. I think that was more attractive to Corey and helped create more of a relationship that he wanted to fight for as well.

Trust can be reestablished. A deeper strength and love can come as well. Hang in there.

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/thanks-to-the-love-of-my-wife-2.html#comment-5628 Corey Tue, 22 Dec 2009 23:33:05 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3411#comment-5628 Hey Ohio-<br><br>Thanks for jumping in the conversation. It's probably best if I let my wife Pam take care of this reply. I'll ask her to jump on later this evening. Hey Ohio-

Thanks for jumping in the conversation. It's probably best if I let my wife Pam take care of this reply. I'll ask her to jump on later this evening.

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/thanks-to-the-love-of-my-wife-2.html#comment-5629 Corey Tue, 22 Dec 2009 23:31:59 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3411#comment-5629 Thanks Melissa. Thanks Melissa.

]]> By: Melissa Gorzelanczyk http://www.simplemarriage.net/thanks-to-the-love-of-my-wife-2.html#comment-5626 Melissa Gorzelanczyk Tue, 22 Dec 2009 18:59:57 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3411#comment-5626 Thanks for sharing this personal and private story with us. Thanks for sharing this personal and private story with us.

]]> By: Ohio http://www.simplemarriage.net/thanks-to-the-love-of-my-wife-2.html#comment-5625 Ohio Tue, 22 Dec 2009 18:57:51 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3411#comment-5625 Corey,<br><br>Thank you for sharing your very personal story. It was very courageous of you. I am a long time reader, but first time I've commented.<br><br>My husband had an emotional affair and while it ended (I found out), I am still hurt and at times am so angry at myself for having been so stupid as to not know and angry at him for having done that to me. How did your wife recover (for lack of a better word)? Corey,

Thank you for sharing your very personal story. It was very courageous of you. I am a long time reader, but first time I've commented.

My husband had an emotional affair and while it ended (I found out), I am still hurt and at times am so angry at myself for having been so stupid as to not know and angry at him for having done that to me. How did your wife recover (for lack of a better word)?

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/thanks-to-the-love-of-my-wife-2.html#comment-5624 Corey Tue, 22 Dec 2009 14:54:51 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3411#comment-5624 Thanks Alisa. I absolutely love the last line as well - and keep it in mind as much as possible. Thanks Alisa. I absolutely love the last line as well – and keep it in mind as much as possible.

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/thanks-to-the-love-of-my-wife-2.html#comment-5623 Corey Tue, 22 Dec 2009 14:54:01 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3411#comment-5623 Working through the difficulties of marriage is worth it. And you're right that's it's good to know that we're not alone in the struggles of life. Working through the difficulties of marriage is worth it. And you're right that's it's good to know that we're not alone in the struggles of life.

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/thanks-to-the-love-of-my-wife-2.html#comment-5622 Corey Tue, 22 Dec 2009 14:23:59 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3411#comment-5622 I am grateful every day for God's grace and love - and for the love of my wife. Hard times help with perspective. I am grateful every day for God's grace and love – and for the love of my wife. Hard times help with perspective.

]]> By: Corey http://www.simplemarriage.net/thanks-to-the-love-of-my-wife-2.html#comment-5621 Corey Tue, 22 Dec 2009 14:22:17 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3411#comment-5621 It's amazing the peaks and valleys that marriage can provide. It's also almost universal that those that work through the valley will experience higher peaks in the relationship. Thanks Tony. It's amazing the peaks and valleys that marriage can provide. It's also almost universal that those that work through the valley will experience higher peaks in the relationship. Thanks Tony.

]]> By: Alisa Bowman http://www.simplemarriage.net/thanks-to-the-love-of-my-wife-2.html#comment-5620 Alisa Bowman Tue, 22 Dec 2009 14:02:55 +0000 http://www.simplemarriage.net/?p=3411#comment-5620 Very personal, very true, very helpful. Thanks for sharing a bit of your darker times, offering hope for others who might still be there. I'm always fascinated to get the male perspective from you--to see what led you away, what led you back. I loved that last line. So, so, true. Very personal, very true, very helpful. Thanks for sharing a bit of your darker times, offering hope for others who might still be there. I'm always fascinated to get the male perspective from you–to see what led you away, what led you back. I loved that last line. So, so, true.

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