The Complete Guide to Everything Men Know About Women
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As you may or may not be aware, I am fan of research. Whether it’s reading or conducting a research study, I enjoy the idea of discovering something new.
Many of you have helped with my own research on what it takes to create a thriving marriage (I’ll release the findings soon) and I am grateful.
Another research project I’ve come across was designed to uncover everything men know about women. After years of research and thousands of interviews with men from all over the world, some amazing discoveries were found.
Ever wondered what men know about communicating with a woman on a deeper level?
Or satisfying a woman’s every desire in bed?
Or living fully committed to the woman he loves?
Or creating a romantic evening for the two of you?
All these questions and more will be answered. Keep reading!
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Corey is the editor of Simple Marriage as well as a licensed marriage & family therapist. While he has a Ph.D. in Family Therapy, he only occasionally likes to be called doctor. If you enjoyed this post, please subscribe so you don't miss any future posts.26 Responses to “The Complete Guide to Everything Men Know About Women”
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Well said!
If that’s supposed to be a joke about how men don’t know anything about those topics, then it’s poorly done. I wasn’t sure if there was supposed to be something there but the feed got messed up or what. If your joke isn’t clear, then it’s probably not worth sharing.
I appreciate this site and the really good posts that come up. I share this critique out of love and desire to avoid other people having the same confusion that I did.
James- Thanks for the input. I hoped to provide a chuckle but wasn’t sure how it would come across in the various feeds and readers out there. Thanks for your reading Simple Marriage.
No worries – I’m not mad, I just hope to make the stuff on here better. I’ve enjoyed contributing to some of the twitter surveys (@jtw78) and the general way in which this site addresses marriage with humor as well as compassion. Please keep up the good work.
one word, “Whooooosh!!”
I am going through a divorce right now with the added burden of losing a job, I have read your posts with admiration for your insight but this last post hit below the belt. I am very tired of men being perceived as idiots who cant or won’t learn about their wife. I help put my wife through nursing school, she graduated a week ago but I am stuck trying to make my life make sense again and this post was painful and immature.
I don’t need to find trite remarks where I go to find solace. My opinion for what this is worth.
My intent is never to cause hurt and I’m sorry if this post is poorly timed due to your current circumstances. Thank you for speaking up about your reaction.
May God bless you and your family during this stage of life.
Corey:
Thank you for your post, I know you would never put something up to hurt anybody but overall I felt I had to say my piece. Your blog regarding relationships is the only one I kept after my wife left. I know my circumstances put me over the top on this but my perception is that my wife really lost respect for me and viewed me as an idiot even though I was trying to keep my job and marriage moving forward.
I feel your post just reinforces that perception with your readers. I know I am not the best man out there but I don’t think my differences should have been mocked by wife and her friends.
Thank you for your blessings
Wow, I don’t think it merited such negativity. It’s a lesson in humility, and how we have to keep learning and never think we know everything (or, often, anything).
This is not only cliche, it is mundane, biggoted and childish. I don’t know who “Corey” is, but this is enough to remove your site from my page. Are you supposed to be a communications expert? Please.
OMG! People it was a JOKE! Come on! Why so sensitive? Maybe Corey hit a nerve because we all know BOTH genders have a difficult time understanding the other. And within the genders, no two people are alike. So to think there is a cookie cutter approach to answering the questions Corey posted is a bit naive. I believe Corey’s post really should be thought of as a spring board for discussing how the answers to those questions can be answered depending on the individuals and their circumstances and not as a dig to anyone.
If anyone stops reading Corey’s post because of this, PLEASE, I might suggest that you need to read his blog more. You’re living much too tense and need to experience life more fully alive. Chill out a bit!
Corey,
Just for the record, I did laugh at the joke. However, I also understand the kickback. Your readers actually WANT to have a better marriage and have sought out good advice (your site). Many of their marriages may be in trouble and your site is one place they have turned to look for help. Therefore, it doesn’t surprise me that your readers wouldn’t take kindly to your joke.
My completely unscientific research of 13 years of marriage and countless conversations with married men has taught me that most men want to be a good husband, and many husbands are doing a great job. However, many grew up without good male role models in the home. The media portrays most husbands as bumbling idiots. We’re sick of being told we’re clueless.
I’m not judging your site based on one post, nor should anyone else. I hope the readers of my blog would provide me the same courtesy. Keep up the great work. Your blog is one I follow regularly and will continue to follow.
Yeah I was totally lost on this one and I have to say I can understand both sides but do feel this was a bit too negative compared with the general theme of your blog. Probably would have been funnier in the right circles. Sorry Corey.
I debated on saying something because I don’t need to add to other negative comments. And Corey is such a great guy who I turn to alot. BUT…
I just can’t help but wonder if its simply that us guys hate our already bad stereo type in the media and in our wives eyes. Or like mine, Father’s day is just the worst holiday. I haven’t had a good one in years! Take this one. I awoke to breakfast in bed by my wife and 12 year old daughter. Awesome. I was then handed a key chain that my daughter bought on her outting to a theme park the day before that had my name on it. Done. All duties paid and all services rendered. Its been like this for years. I ‘m not surprised by the 12 year old. And its not about what I get out of it. I KNOW this. My family comes first.
But if I, or any man I know, allowed this to pass as mother’s day. Holy hell would break loose from all fronts. My friends would have humiliated me, my wife would have drug me through the ringer emotionally, and the media would have kindly reminded me of how stupid I am.
And believe me, I know women DESERVE their day. God what I wouldn’t get done without my wife!!!!! I start thinking about Mother’s day as soon as the New Year is over (its hard to pick and plan something good. I’m not that inventive).
But when you sit down and look at the roll a man does in the family and in society as a whole. It is HUGE!!!!! But largely assumed that they should fill it NO MATTER WHAT. And when they don’t, its not about why… its about what a creep he was, or what a looser he is.
Honestly, being a parent and spouse is a completely thankless job. If you go into it thinking otherwise, your only fooling yourself for a short time. But to try and make light of it after all the damage done by family, friends, and other media sources… hmmm… Being a beacon of hope, I think, would be a greater goal than humor.
Keep up the hard work Corey. I am still a fan and reader!
I just wanted to thank you for taking the time to write this out. I’m afraid my poor husband really got the short end of the stick this Father’s Day, and since I have a month to plan for his b-day, I’m going to make sure I make it up to him. Thanks!
I’ll say on this one, I’m so clueless to men I thought it was a teaser to a series he was going to start. Now that I do, it’s funny. I’m humble enough as a woman I know if I didn’t have a patient husband I’d be single. I’m a woman, I’m different. I don’t get action movies, hiking, guns or sports. Mars and Venus people…..
I actually completely missed it and thought there was a problem in my reader. I didn’t think it was funny but I wasn’t insulted either. I’m neutrual about the post but was amazed by the comments. I didn’t realize there was so many men who read blogs and can certainly understand why they would be offended.
I’m sure your future posts will be better:)
Wow, quite a reaction you got there Corey!
But really, my personal opinion is that people just need to calm down. Society may see husbands and fathers as bumbling idiots and we may or may not know lots or a little about women. The thing is that we individually know how much we know and no matter how much we know we, everyone who wants to better their relationship with their wife, try to learn more about their wives as they can. Yes, it is important to get society to view husbands and fathers differently, but what is more important is that you know you are different…nothing news or society says about you as a stereotype can make you less of a person unless you let it and if you can’t make fun of yourself (as this post of Corey’s does) then maybe are you too worried about society and not worried enough about the daily progress you make on improving yourself as a man and a husband.
Sorry Corey … I just read through all those comments. That’s not what I was expecting to see at all. You got a laugh from me because my husband has said this very thing to me. Of course it’s not THAT bad. He knows some things I need, of course, but generally, he doesn’t know unless I tell him.
It was funny and reassuring at the same time. I feel it deserves a laugh, so HA!
I don’t know what was so hard to get about this. I started laughing while reading the first few lines of the post.
Those that are not able to laugh at themselves are missing out on a lot in life.
Keep up with the humor, the world needs a lot more of it as evidenced by the reactions here.
Corey,
I’m amazed at the response you got here. When I saw the headline on my news reader, I instantly knew where this was headed and started laughing before even reading the delivery. I’m not sure why anyone felt stereotyped since it was so general and vague like some knowledge could apply to every woman (or even a majority group of women/men)
The holy grail of relationships continues to evade. Laugh about it….we’re all in the same boat together on this one!
Let’s face it, by and large men and women don’t understand each other a good deal of the time, even when trying hard and doing a pretty good job. Still lots of gaps. It’s been this way since the beginning and it will always be that way.
Someone could look at that as a personal failing I suppose, but that’s a choice that I’d rather not make.
I prefer to think of it as the way things are and have always been. (correctly or incorrectly, this is just my very humble opinion)
The challenge is to struggle to bridge that gap, knowing that it won’t ever be closed completely since two different imperfect people are involved and let God make up the difference.
Spoken as the more imperfect person in my 15+ year marraige and thank goodness God makes up the difference. Be in big hurt if it were not for that!
Corey:
Hey, I’m on your side, man. I’ll be the first to admit that the only thing I REALLY know about my wife is her name. Oh, I know her, but every time I actually GET to know her, she changes her mind about something, and I just don’t know anymore. The joke was spot on, and I’m sure some didn’t get it, or didn’t appreciate it, or whatever.
I say, consider it a win that so many people responded. And those who responded negatively? Well, they need to get over themselves!
Joe
Well, you certainly hit a chord here – so many heartfelt responses. What I would like to respond to is the idea that was shared above, “that most men want to be a good husband, and many husbands are doing a great job.” I wish this were true, and what I’ve heard from many women, tells me otherwise. What tends to happen is that we preach to the choir – the men who need it most aren’t reading these blogs, or the books, or making the attempt to improve their marriage, or seeking help on being a better dad. Those of us who are conscious partners, hang out with other men who are conscious partners, and our perception is skewed. So to all the bloggers and commenters out there, keep up the good work of getting the word out – we need it now more than ever. And thank you Corey for doing an amazing job of fostering these conversations and writing so honestly and passionately.
Jeffrey
What the intercourse?
I’m having real problems with my marriage and all the help I find is useless, so to hell with you. Why don’t you go to the burn unit at your local hospital and laugh it up. I you’re a man that I hope you suffer very badly Judas.