The Lazy Man’s Guide to Marriage, Part 2

What do I do with the information presented in part 1?

Right now, you don’t have to figure out what to do with these signals. Right now we are discussing identifying the energy that calls or speaks to you.

Questions for exploring Bliss
Here are some questions to answer that might ferret out your bliss:

What activities do you seek out regardless of money or time constraints?
What do you love doing?
What can’t you stop reading about?
Talking about?
Researching?
What do you want to tell people about because you’re so excited about it?
What are or have been your soulful obsessions?

What soulful obsessions have grabbed you?:

What kind of books do you read compulsively?
What kind of activities do you engage in compulsively that don’t seem unhealthy?
What kind of information do you seek out obsessively?
Who are you fascinated with?
What kind of gossip grabs you?

What riveted reactions have you had when:

Watching television?
Listening to the radio?
Talking to friends?
Something happens at work?

What parts of these activities or what activities have you enjoyed in the areas of:

Hobbies (past or present)?
Family activities?
Spiritual or religious activities?
Volunteer activities?
Career activities?
Vacations and trips?

Questions for exploring Blessed

Who has believed in you and encouraged you?
Who has told you that you were capable of something?
Who has been your inspiration or role model that got you to consider doing something in life or as a career?
Who is always on your side or in your corner?
When were you in the right place at the right time?
What natural abilities have you been blessed with?
What comes easily and naturally for you in life?

Questions for exploring Pissed
What critical, upset or angry reactions have you had when:

Watching television?
Listening to the radio?
Talking to friends?
Something happens at work?
What do you want to tell people about because you’re so pissed off or indignant about it?

Did any of these activities have annoyances to them that you might feel moved to correct or tell people about?

Hobbies (past or present)
Family activities?
Spiritual or religious activities?
Volunteer activities?
Career activities?
Vacations and trips?

Questions for exploring Dissed

Where have you been dissatisfied in your life?
When or where have you or someone you cared about been disrespected or treated badly?

When were you envious about:

Someone’s job?
Someone’s accomplishment?
Someone’s recognition?

This has been taken from Bill O’Hanlon’s ebook on this subject. Find more information at his site.

ABOUT THE WRITER

Corey is the editor of Simple Marriage as well as a licensed marriage & family therapist. While he has a Ph.D. in Family Therapy, he only occasionally likes to be called doctor. If you enjoyed this post, please subscribe so you don't miss any future posts.