Comments on: The Virtuous Marriage: Silence

By: Beth LaMie

Beth LaMie — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 23:15:30 +0000

Corey,
I like your common-sense suggestions about dealing with cell phones (and regular phones for those of us who are still wired in). It amazes me when people (and retail clerks) interrupt a transaction or conversation to take a call. Even that would not be so bad if they just said they’d call the person back.

Whether with a spouse or a stranger, it is just rude to keep them hanging while someone figuratively “steps out of the room.”

By: James Wood

James Wood — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 17:57:06 +0000

I would add that we should avoid texting and checking other info on the phone. In this hyper connected world it’s important to honor the connections that are most important. Unfortunately I had to learn this one the hard way.

By: Dustin | Engaged Marriage

Dustin | Engaged Marriage — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 17:11:06 +0000

There are few things as annoying as those that talk on their cell phones at clearly inappropriate times. I particularly love it when they not only leave their ringer on in forbidden places (like the movie theater) but actually answer it and have conversations! Idiots…

Anyway, I agree that this virtue applies to a great marriage. Some of the best moments my wife and I share each day are in the silence after our kids are in bed and the TV is off. Sometimes the best words are left unspoken.

By: Mrs Embers

Mrs Embers — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 13:52:33 +0000

THANK YOU for repeating the bit about not talking on your phone when you’re with other people. When I was working in retail, it happened far too frequently- I’d be ringing up a purchase and someone would be chatting away n his/her phone, and I’d have to interrupt their conversation to ask a question or give a total. It’s just rude- it’s treating human beings like they’re bank machines instead of actual people. It was, however, funny how many people in line behind behind the phone-talkers would roll their eyes or comment later about the rudeness. It’s not as socially accepted as some people seem to think it is!

It seems to me that people who do that to salespeople and sandwich artists are more likely to do it at the dinner table with their spouse and family, too.

By: Aidil FS

Aidil FS — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 05:04:01 +0000

there is a teaching in my religion that encourages people to ‘speak only when you have something to say’ and that ‘something’ must be something important or has content.

I do believe in that, and this post is pointing at the same direction. Im not against communication, i love to communicate with people, but its just that I think some of us speak so much we tend to say things but we dont mean.

In relationship,especially, communication is the heart, but if you put too much stress to the ‘heart’ it will only lead into problems.

Anyway,good post,enjoyed reading it.Good day.

By: Adventure-Some Matthew

Adventure-Some Matthew — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 03:45:24 +0000

It amazes me how many people don’t understand basic cell phone etiquette. Just yesterday it appears that I horribly inconvenienced this woman who I was making a sandwich for (I’m currently a sandwich artist at Quiznos). She actually had to hang up the call she had just made in order to tell me what toppings she wanted! The nerve I have! (She didn’t say anything, but her unspoken attitude made it clear.)
I still tried to provide the best service that I could, which meant as quickly as possible so she could resume her phone call.

Corey, this is some great advice, and I will try to consciously follow it.