If you venture into the world of marriage bigification and self-improvement, you’ll be inundated with all types of awesome speak.
It’s everywhere in the blogoshere.
Why does it have to be so hard?
What if two words could improve your marriage?
Two words can … and will.
- Think big (look at the big picture of life and marriage, it’s not all about you)
- Get over (forgive again and again)
- Choose battles (not everything is worth the fight)
- Just stop (get help if you need)
- Shut up (there’s wisdom in knowing when to be quiet)
- Move on (let go of the past and live in the moment)
- Be smart (use your brain in every situation)
- Common sense (uh, hello, befriending an ex-girlfriend on Facebook is just plain stupid)
- Show up (there’s value to being together)
- Be present (engage your spouse when your together, don’t be lost at work or elsewhere)
- Grow up (this is what marriage is all about!)
Got two words to add?
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12: Step up (sometimes you do the carrying and sometimes you spouse carries you)
thanks for the 11 reminders.
great post
13. You’re Right!
13: Just Because. (You don’t need an occasion or reason to do something special!)
Wow, my looks like I do remember what my wife says
Love More
- Laugh together
- Dance daily
- Stay patient
Me too!
(as in- you are not alone in feeling that. Guess, what, me too.)
love the concept of this post!
I’m sorry. (knowing when you’re wrong and being sure to say it)
How in the world did I miss these two words! Thanks for adding them.
Enjoy Today
Hug me – the power of a genuine hug can be all you need sometimes.
Just Give
My aunt once told me that in any relationship, one partner will invariably give more than the other. Marriage is work and that both partners need to give of themselves often.
Admit Mistakes – It’s a sign of strength of character and respect for your partner to admit you were wrong.
Remember romance.
I have two sets of words. Be Patient and Show Respect.
“I understand” or “I know” – sometimes just conveying that you’ve heard is better than giving a solution or offering advice.
“Thank you”- feel grateful for what others do for you and for what you are blessed with.
Have sex.
Though I’m obviously baised lol
“love yourself” – you can’t love anyone else until you love yourself
Let’s Talk (communicating with each other that is more than surface talk)
Fight fair (you’re going to have disagreements; no bringing up past problems or arguments). Also, Dream Together (although you’ll have your own individual aspirations, what do you dream as a couple? Starting a business together? Travel plans? Etc?)
I also agree with the comments of ‘Laugh often’, ‘Just because’, and ‘Enjoy today’.
SHOW RESPECT is one we live by. When you truly respect your spouse, you put their needs ahead of your own. When they respect you, they do the same. The result: two people always striving to make the other happy, and neither spouse unhappy. Balance.
“Yes dear” (I’m joking!)
GOD first.