Comments on: What’s Wrong And How Do We Fix It?

By: fermis

fermis — Mon, 03 Oct 2011 12:50:18 +0000

Marriage is easy, until it gets comlpicated with issues such money, kids’ discpline, purchasing your first home, scheduling work with kids’s school, homework, house work, dinner choices….lets get back down to earth from fantacy world, it is not gardening at all…. Some marriages are simply unsolvable

By: Jodi

Jodi — Sat, 05 Jun 2010 16:31:57 +0000

Maddy,
There’s a BIG difference in keeping your vows to God in your relationship and being a doormat for your husband to wipe his feet on after the next affair. You aren’t being fair to yourself or your children. It condones Daddy to be unfaithful, (you didn’t mention that you guys are working anything out, going for help or dealing with it or even talking about it with the kids!). Keeping your vows before God is the forgiveness you extend to him but since he’s dragging your family into financial dire straights, plus…staying in this relationship is worse!! You can separate and get you and your children into a more stable relationship life and talk about these things to then especially because you have sons who look at this and end up later in life just like dad!
Tells us exactly what YOU are doing to help yourself work this “marriage” out? All it sounds like to me is that the wife is a doormat for a twice, or more later..cheating, lying “husband” who leaves HIS responsibility to his 1st commitment (YOU) and his vows and lives in the security that no matter how much he beats your marriage up, you’ll be there with your purse of band aids and cover the boo boo’s. NOT a good marriage NOR is it what a covenant to you marriage vows are. Your sons will become husbands one day, will be it be okay for them when dad says; “Do as I say, not as I do?” NO,…sorry and I’m a Christian that believes in keeping my vows but if mine was doing that to our family…I would separate and do counsling but after TWO affairs and a KID????? Sorry both you and your boys need stability. This guy aint giving it to you.
You quoted;I have been challenged to love this man 100% regardless of what he gives to me. So, in saying all that, I really think marriage is about being the very best wife/husband you can be no matter if yr spouse is giving you the same. Because, isnt being @ your best always the better way to live =)”"
I wonder what they’ll say to you in the hospital emergency room after you’re beaten to a pulp because you stand by this?” Or at a bankruptcy lawyer, or at the unemployment office or worse because you “stood by this”. Wake up! If you call yourself a Christian, your husband is called to love his wife as Christ loved the Church and laid His life down for her. Is your husband doing that?

By: Maddy

Maddy — Sat, 10 Apr 2010 19:53:19 +0000

I really appreciate all of your insights and honesty abt what you all experience in yr marriage. Coming from a season of complete brokennes and almost the end of my marriage and family 2 years ago. My husband has had 2 affairs, fathered a child with his most recent affair, I have had to face who am I going to be in this? Do I stand by vows and integrity with God? As I see our wealth being stripped monthly from child support, medical expenses and the strain it has put on my marriage, who am I going to be to my husband and my 2 boys? I could go on and on abt all of the realities that I face daily. But, I believe I have been called to show grace and mercy to my husband, for it is he who has lost his way. I have been challenged to love this man 100% regardless of what he gives to me. So, in saying all that, I really think marriage is about being the very best wife/husband you can be no matter if yr spouse is giving you the same. Because, isnt being @ your best always the better way to live =)

By: Rhonda

Rhonda — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 16:39:45 +0000

Beautifully spoken, Marie!! And very insightful & educational. Thanks!!

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By: KenV

KenV — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 15:24:32 +0000

I know I’m kinda late to the game, but I just read this and really appreciate your statement about how we need to assume that we’ll be doing 100%, not 50/50.

I’ve recently made that discovery the hard way and it’s gone a long way in helping me be satisfied with what God’s blessed me with and not expecting it to be different.

Thanks Alan!

By: Corey

Corey — Tue, 19 May 2009 21:54:12 +0000

Great statement Hayden. Thanks.