Comments on: Woman Up: WARNING! Men Are Delicate

By: Cats! Evil? « Through The Illusion

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By: Corey

Corey — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 12:56:48 +0000

@Anon- I like your ideas on how to help us males be more open, the only thing I would add, #2, do you ever really fully understand another person? I don’t think you can, that’s what adds to the challenge and adventure of a long term marriage.

I like #3 to help get the process started, then maybe begin to face each other as the relationship progresses. Thanks for the comment.

By: anon

anon — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 06:05:36 +0000

In response to Laurie, “I want to know the real man. He is so protective that I donâ€™t believe Iâ€™ll ever really know his heart.”
No you don’t! Trust me on this, it will only make you sad and bewildered. We guys don’t think like you we don’t care about the same things you do. Every time I have been able to share my true heart with a woman she has thrown it away. Most men have very similar experiences and this is why we don’t share our hearts.

Women do not understand what we want or care about. This is especially true of the more technically minded males.

Hyden’s post is especially true, when you are upbeat and positive towards your male, he will open up more.
1) Do not laugh at him or think he is joking when he tells you that his true passion is something you find absurd.
2) Do not lose interest in him once you really understand him (This one is all too common.) Most women love the discovery and mystery of a man, but once they figure him out he isn’t interesting anymore.
3) DO NOT EVER force him to face you directly when talking to him about something emotional or personal to him. Sitting next to each other while driving or swinging on a porch swing etc. is a much better way. For men, face to face is the posture of confrontation, shoulder to shoulder is the posture of cooperation.

By: Rori Raye

Rori Raye — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 03:50:21 +0000

So totally true. I write about this all the time – we instantly assume WE’RE the delicate ones, and that we can dish stuff out – and then wonder why a man clams up. It’s hard to be soft when you’re angry and resentful – we women have been taught to put up a shell when we feel those “ugly” feelings – I think that’s why we don’t know how easy it is to hurt and distance a man. I think we women are a lot stronger inside, and men are a lot mushier inside than any of us realize.

Thanks for the great post.

By: Best Of Simple Marriages, September 2008 | The Simple Marriage Project

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By: B.Wilde

B.Wilde — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 18:25:40 +0000

Hayden, this is the first I’ve been exposed to your writing and I find it extremely thought provoking. As a man, I was obviously looking at this from my “cat” perspective. I think your insight is accurate. And in the spirit of being open, I’ve emailed it to my wife and requested that we have a discussion about the dogs and the cats. You’ve made a difference. Thanks.

By: How to Simplify Your Marriage « Persistent Illusion

How to Simplify Your Marriage « Persistent Illusion — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 13:33:49 +0000

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By: Hayden Tompkins

Hayden Tompkins — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 13:21:16 +0000

Be persistently, positively upbeat and passionate. I basically sucked Chris into my own energy and he felt comfortable ‘letting go’.

He also liked that I was equally invested in him living his dreams.

By: Laurie

Laurie — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 03:14:08 +0000

Guarded? That’s an understatement. Nice post Hayden, as always.
SO Corey, how does a wife “encourage” a hub to take off the armor and reveal his heart? I want to know the real man. He is so protective that I don’t believe I’ll ever really know his heart.